Cancer

[TAZALISCIOUS]

Is there anyone on here who is going through some kind of cancer or knows anyone at the moment that is dealing with it? I have a close family member battling again after coming up to a 5 year remission. I have been unable to sleep now or many nights and I am at a loss for words. I don't know if I am ready to really talk about it but if anyone on here has something to say I would love to read it. Anything to keep my mind concentrated on something besides the bad thoughts. I have an overall positive outlook but there is always the "but" that creeps in too!

[camellia0]

Just remember God is in control. Let Him carry all your burdens......

[cateyes1]

I have a really really good friend who is batteling stage 4 pancreatic cancer which traveled to her liver. She went through months of chemo and chemo ended on Dec 12th of last year. She just had a c-scan and the Drs told her that they no longer see the cancer in her liver YAY...I guess what i'm saying is to keep the faith and keep it positive and with lots of prayers I pray they both can beat this!!...I truly believ in the power of prayers, I see it working with my friend!! 

[gwendolynconrad]

What ever what you are going through god is still there with you, just keep the faith.

[jenniferhoder]

I am very thankful that I am not.
Pray to God to help you with your words of comfort....
I wish you the best

[washibi]

I have a friend who was barely diagnosed with cancer they say it's the most early stage and everything should be fine but it is a scary position

[TAZALISCIOUS]

Wow, this is a place to share jokes, thoughts of your everyday, word chains, etc...never thought this forum and it's warm replies by people would tear me up. I do believe and keep saying at the end of every thought that "there is always hope". No matter what the percentages or how many doctor's opinions you have it is never in our control. We are awaiting on blood work next March 1st to tell us how quick the breast cancer of the bone is spreading. From there we will know if chemo is to be sooner than later. I can barely sleep, eat and my mind is continuously somewhere else. My nerves are also shot and even though normally I am very patient and extremely calm, at this time my nerves are shot. I appreciate all your feed back and hope the best for those of you who who know someone at the very beginning of not so good news. As my thoughts are with those of you who know someone that is doing well after getting through these hard times. All very encouraging in there own way and to open up ones eyes that we are all here until the unknown.

[syorker82]

That six letter word (CANCER) can be so easily associated with that five letter word (DEATH) because of the tragedy that haves come along with it.  Cancer has touched and claimed many lives of individuals in my family.  I even have to keep regular check on my *bleep* because I have a few lumps, been there for some time now and I'm 30 been keeping watch on them since my early twenties and that's two kids and a pregnancy later (just found out I'm prego).  But regardless of what situation or what may occur you only have ONE life!  Make the most out of every opportunity.  Enjoy your life doing what's right to the fullest!!!  There are families that fall apart don't even speak and some even hate each other over petty things and too proud to forgive or even say I'm sorry.  Life is precious though short and full of trouble we should value each moment.  (though sometimes easier said than done)  Regardless of your beliefs my belief is that God is able and He can give you peace in the midst of what you're doing through and He is a healer and I pray that His will be done in your life as it is in heaven.  I don't know if you know the Lord's prayer but I like it and I also like the serenity prayer (it's not just for AA or NA lol).  Sometimes we just need peace of mind when we are going through situations and I believe that God can give us the peace that we need.     

[maxinmotion]

Is there anyone on here who is going through some kind of cancer or knows anyone at the moment that is dealing with it? I have a close family member battling again after coming up to a 5 year remission. I have been unable to sleep now or many nights and I am at a loss for words. I don't know if I am ready to really talk about it but if anyone on here has something to say I would love to read it. Anything to keep my mind concentrated on something besides the bad thoughts. I have an overall positive outlook but there is always the "but" that creeps in too!

This past January marks three years for me being cancer free. I thank God day and night for my being here with my two children Jessica now 23 and Jahkendrick now 17. It was three days before Jessica's 20th birthday that I had to tell her that I had breast cancer. I wanted to wait before I told her until after her birthday which is the 23 of December. I went to the hospital to a port put into my chest and had already decided to wait. Low and behold, they ended up keeping me over night so my roommate had to tell her that I was at the hospital. My daughter came to the hospital being very concerned to see what was wrong. So I had to tell her which was like I said three days before her 20th birthday and 5 days before Christmas. You talk about hard, I know your pain first hand. My being a single parent scared me more then than anything. What will happen to my children, what do I do now. You name it and I had the thought. Life as I knew it had changed forever.

One appointment after another, test after test and the list goes on. Treatment started; a few months with chemo followed by radiation. Yes the dreaded hair loss was the hardest for me. But through all the sickness and pain I knew I had to be strong and even stronger for my children. My prayer was and still is for strength to get through each day. I battle daily with thoughts of all kind. I have to fight sometimes to not get depressed, then it seems to get even harder. Then I have to fight even harder still to find something to take my mind off of the situation.

Yes I believe in God with all of me. I sometimes wonder what will tomorrow bring but I have never and will never forget that is He who is in control. I constantly try to find something to do or read, in order to change the thoughts that I have. I find that being busy can be a big help.

I will check back here often for any updates and I will keep you and your loved one in my thoughts and prayers. Any thoughts that you may have or have had, just know that you are never alone.

[TAZALISCIOUS]

maxinmotion and syorker82 wow. i cannot begin to tell you how reading your words helped me in different ways. Each day is a struggle and I am trying to give my !00% but get frustrated when I have a moment to myself and can only hope it's enough. I have been reading up on the different medications and their side effects. Foods like fruits and vegetables that can be of some help. Obviously the best medicine is all in one's good spirits and the support of family and friends. I need to be involved as much as I can just to keep my mind busy and and as calm as possible. The medication to fight the cancer right now is unbearable and it's hard for me to watch what is going on. I won't stop giving my all but I fear as things will progress and I know that chemo is inevitable. Of course there is the possibility of death but there is always the chance at a miracle too. I go back and forth a lot. It is really all that I have. I am apparently healthy but I could leave this earth tomorrow for whatever reasons right. So why worry just because cancer has been given the name to someone I love and they could just continue on for years to come. It is all a mind game when yo really think about it, that I know...it never makes it easier though! I really appreciate all of your feedback though...hope this is helpful also to more than just me too

[maxinmotion]

Thank you TAZALISCIOUS, your thoughts are very helpful as no one has all of the answers. Especially when it comes to illness, something as serious as cancer. We have to reach out to others, read, walk, or what ever the moment calls for. Sometimes we just need some to listen because we know that cancer is and can be a very painful thing to deal with.

I like that you said "it is a mind game when you really think about it". That is exactly how I look at it as a mind game. As serious as cancer is we have to come up with new ways to deal with it. It is so different for every person that is affected by cancer or that know someone that has it; we have to come up with a way to handle it. Take my sister Norma for example, from the moment she was told that I had cancer she has never said the word CANCER, she calls it C-A.  That is how she deals with the fact that her baby sister had cancer. That is the game she created to help her deal with it.

Yes it is a lot to deal with, you will have good days and bad days just don't lose hope. When you are having a bad moment get a pen and paper and write what you are feeling. Be sure to write the time and date. If possible ask your loved one some questions and include the answer in your notes.
That is one of the things that help me to get through tough days.

 

[lgemini]

Yes, my mother had treatment for her cancer last year along with a triple bypass.  One thing good about this, is my whole family can now get checked out and get help if we need it.
Good luck to everyone.

[TAZALISCIOUS]

Cancer and a triple bypass. lgemini I hope that your mother is doing well. Love the positive vibe from your post too. It is always a good thing to get checked, even if the reminder comes from something like that. It gives the family peace of mind too and can build stronger bonds as well.

I never thought of writing down my feelings when I am not feeling so hot at the moment, maxinmotion. Nor to get feed back and write down some responses. My mind goes like a mouse running on a wheel and just never stops. Every night I find something new on the computer and take notes to keep updated. I have copy pasted so many things and printed them out too. I like to be as informed as possible, and on top of it all as much as I can. The latest has been with finding out the best foods to fight this breast cancer in the bone. At the same time I had to equally write down what foods to stay away from as now there is a weak gallbladder that has come into the mix. Until the surgery for that I am making sure to be aware of all good and bad foods for both for my mom.

Also there has been talks since the other for another treatment of radiation. As there is a lump in the armpit that is blocking the lymphnodes from travelling properly and giving severe pain to the arm and hand.

So the latest overall is breast cancer of the bones, suggestive gallbladder removal surgery, lymphedema in the arm and as a result to that another go at radiation. ( The last radiation was 5 years ago when the original cancer started). I really have to say 2013 is not starting off well at all!!!

[Nancy5]

This is my fifth year of being cancer free, I had ovarian cancer.  After surgery I had 6 months of chemo and because of my excellent surgeon, wonderful doctors, and of course God I was able to beat this.  No tater what kind you have or what stage it is at you can't give up hope.  Every day is a good day, and who knows, maybe  that's the day someone will finally find the cure.  Good luck, keep the faith, and I'll pray for you.

[jkhanson]

Is there anyone on here who is going through some kind of cancer or knows anyone at the moment that is dealing with it? I have a close family member battling again after coming up to a 5 year remission. I have been unable to sleep now or many nights and I am at a loss for words. I don't know if I am ready to really talk about it but if anyone on here has something to say I would love to read it. Anything to keep my mind concentrated on something besides the bad thoughts. I have an overall positive outlook but there is always the "but" that creeps in too!

I have had close family and friends in the battle with cancer.  These are some SUCCESS STORIES!

I happy to let you know that my MOM is Cancer FREE from Breast Cancer and has been for 32 YEARS!!

My SISTER-IN-LAW is Cancer FREE from Breast Cancer and an aneurysm for 25+ years!

I have friends who are Cancer Free from Breast Cancer also in time frames of3 to 18 years.