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march1971

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should a man take back an ex-wife?
« on: February 25, 2013, 01:27:31 pm »
should a man take back his ex-wife? if she has not remarried, a divorced couple could reconcile, however, Deuteronomy 24:1-4 says that when the lady's new husband divorces her
or dies, the former husband is not to take her back, as she has been defiled. I have been in 4 relationships, one turning into a marriage, and when they cheat on me, I dump them, and
I get begging from them every day, however, I don't take them back. I have been cheated on 10 times, and if I am in a new relationship, I will have to tell the lady that I am dating that
I don't want her to cheat on me. to me, I consider it cheating if she says another guy is cute. with me, it is a two-way street, if she wants me to be loyal, than she has to be loyal as well. one time, I dated someone that was jealous of me because I had a celebrity crush on Kristi Yamaguchi, however, she thought it was okay to go out dancing with another guy. the point is, I never take back an ex-wife.

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Re: should a man take back an ex-wife?
« Reply #1 on: February 25, 2013, 02:06:13 pm »
I would never take back my ex's eiter. Both cheating and controlling. one was even a wife beater, why in the world would i want them back.

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Re: should a man take back an ex-wife?
« Reply #2 on: February 25, 2013, 02:08:25 pm »
I always say an ex is an ex for a reason. Take one back? Why? So it can not work all over again?  :dontknow:

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Re: should a man take back an ex-wife?
« Reply #3 on: February 25, 2013, 02:29:46 pm »
I believe that if you are no longer together there is a good reason.  The universe is telling you to move on and live your life.  We only have one life, enjoy it and leave the past behind.

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Re: should a man take back an ex-wife?
« Reply #4 on: February 25, 2013, 02:45:32 pm »
Taking back an ex is taking a step backward....Don't go back and don't be in a rush to get in a relationship. People are put in our life sometimes for a season, so just be friends with the opposite sex. Sometimes we say Love way too early, and then again, we may be focused on someone that we think we love and that 'right one' is right under our nose..

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Re: should a man take back an ex-wife?
« Reply #5 on: February 25, 2013, 02:51:57 pm »
Most of the time you cant take back the ex-spouses. But sometimes people made mistakes,then they realized that after they let go of someone they really love and care about. They will do anything to win them back.

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Re: should a man take back an ex-wife?
« Reply #6 on: February 25, 2013, 02:52:59 pm »
Why not? Marriage means what you want it to mean, that is if you want to go along with the standards of today's society.

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Re: should a man take back an ex-wife?
« Reply #7 on: February 25, 2013, 03:44:27 pm »
No, no, no, no, no, no, no....I would never take my ex back.  I so agree with the poster that says once the ink dries on that divorce certificate, leave the past in the past.   If it didn't work the first time, they are STILL the same person.  Good words to try to get a partner back really only last so long.  How do you know once you step back into that relationship that person will not get comfortable in the relationship and fall back to old habits?  It's the person that they are. Nah, divorce court was a lot of work and I am in a whole new stage of life and that part is dead to me.  Past. Gone.  Okay, sorry I rambled on, that's just my little 2cents worth.

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Re: should a man take back an ex-wife?
« Reply #8 on: February 27, 2013, 06:41:43 am »
I would never take back my ex's eiter. Both cheating and controlling. one was even a wife beater, why in the world would i want them back.
sometimes the man that beats on his wife was abused himself earlier in life, but that still does not make it right. here is two sayings: once a cheater, always a cheater and once an abuser always an
abuser. you forgive them and forget them and find someone much better. my ex-wife's name is Gwen, and I have this saying now: "better Ghanaian than Gwen" as I met a very sweet lady from Ghana
with alot of good morals.

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Re: should a man take back an ex-wife?
« Reply #9 on: February 27, 2013, 06:58:34 am »
i think it all depends on the situation!  :dog:

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Re: should a man take back an ex-wife?
« Reply #10 on: February 27, 2013, 07:15:10 am »
Maybe not, but it probably depends more on the reason why they divorced, and when their own ways.

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Re: should a man take back an ex-wife?
« Reply #11 on: February 27, 2013, 07:42:50 am »
An ex is an ex for a reason.  Why backslide when you can close that chapter and start life anew?  My ex thought I would take him back and he discovered he was wrong.  The day I stood in the floor at my job and told him I would not take him back and told him about himself, he actually fixed his mouth to say I was showing off in front of my co-workers and making him look like a villain.  I took the emotional abuse from him for 20 years and was just spent and tired.  That was 12 and a half years ago.  I finally got a pro-se divorce (he was not present or responded to my notices in 11 years) in 2011 and got married to a man I had spent 2 years prior.  My life is bliss now.  I tell you that if you want to slide backwards and try it again (not saying your relationship will be any different than the first time), that would be your choice, but I wouldn't. :angel11: :angel12:

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Re: should a man take back an ex-wife?
« Reply #12 on: February 27, 2013, 08:28:29 am »
My thought on the matter of taking back ex, is, It depends on the situation, and the reason for the breakup. If the breakup was because of cheating, Then my answer is NO..... If the breakup was because of personality clashes, then maybe if the person is willing to change his or her ways, then my answer is Yes>>>>>>>>>>>>>>

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Re: should a man take back an ex-wife?
« Reply #13 on: February 27, 2013, 08:56:55 am »
If he wants to, I see nothing wrong with it.  Better an ex-wife then a new one, at least you know the first wife. :wave:

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Re: should a man take back an ex-wife?
« Reply #14 on: February 27, 2013, 09:24:37 am »
Situations can change. In most cases it probably wouldn't work but I don't think it is something that should be ruled out in every situation. If you it makes you happy I say go for it.

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