Is being submissive to your husband a sign of weakness or strength?

[bjohnson52]

Guys,

I heard this question asked on the radio and some of the calls that came in from both men and women were
quite hilarious.

So please feel free to answer no matter what your gender.

Thanks!

[coreyw87]

Depends upon what is meant by submissive.  The whole subject comes from the bible and I think the meaning got misconstrued but I don't believe it means the husband gets his way all the time.  So I don't know about the weakness or strength question it depends on the circumstances etc.

[6265AT99]

Guys,

I heard this question asked on the radio and some of the calls that came in from both men and women were
quite hilarious.

So please feel free to answer no matter what your gender.

Thanks!

Now, that must have been one heck of a radio show!!!!  When you consider all the possible answers to "submission".  I personally feel, if it relates to husband having the upper hand all the time - the answer would be a sign of weakness; but, on the other hand, if it relates to mutual feelings, submission would mean strength because both parties would be submissive to each other!!!

[Nancy5]

I have to agree, it depends on what you mean.  If I give in to my husband if he wants something or wants to go someplace that I don't is submissive, then I guess I am.  But on the other hand when he gives into me is that being submissive?  Then I guess we both are.

[msmoneybags48]

I believe that being submissive to your husband is a sign of both.  Because he is a man, he is supposed to wear the pants, but I have seen some men that would take that word and make it into a holy mess.  I knew a man when I was growing up who got put out of his house by his wife; he had to bring her the check uncashed and she would issue out what money she wanted him to have.  I knew a man who didn't allow his wife to do the shopping; he did it for his household and was too strict on his daughter, who was my friend.  She was at home one day, called me, and asked me if she should do the wild thing with a guy we knew.  I lost my voice for five minutes, and tried to talk her out of it.  When I called back, they had done it 4 times and she got pregnant.  Her father blamed me and every friend she had for her problem.  I got that straight; I told him that I was not going to allow him to blame me for it when I wasn't even there.   I told him his strictness caused her to sneak around, not me.  He apologized.  He was cheating on his wife with a woman who lived not far from my mother; I didn't tell his daughter; she found out when his car was parked in front of the woman's yard.  His wife, when he died, went everywhere, because she was kept in the house like she was a caged animal.  I can see being submissive has some perks, but being controlled speaks volumes.

[bjohnson52]

I have to agree, it depends on what you mean.  If I give in to my husband if he wants something or wants to go someplace that I don't is submissive,then I guess I am.  But on the other hand when he gives into me is that being submissive?  Then I guess we both are.

Well let me state one lady's definition of being submissive,these are the conditions on which she would be submissive. The husband should not and isn't currently cheating.  Pays all the bills, is a good father and doesn't physically abuse her.  If they have an agreement on paying bills assuming that the husband isn't financially able to pay all the bills and they have an agreement on who pays what, the agreement should be honored.

The husband is the head of the household, he's the king of the throne and what happened when a wife wasn't submissive to her king ?

Folks this is the 20th century and no beheading is going to happen in the U.S.A. 

However, when a wife agrees to be submissive, as long as its within reason and makes good logical sense and it's a mutual agreement
between the husband and wife with the consequences spelled out, then it's a sign of strength.

[vickysue]

Oh i was married to a man who thought he was king of the rooste. Married 11 years before he would put my name on the checking account. Checked all reciepts when i got home. I stayed home and raised our two boys for 15 yers and worked my butt off on the farm. While he would be gone for days at a time doing custom work for other people and would party up a storm while gone and sleep with anything that looked at him.  Fed up went to work out of the house as the boys were old enough to stay by them selves at night. got my own apratment and moved out. Had enough. No woman should have to ut up with i did. The mental abuse on top of it didn't help.

[luvh8tragedy87]

I agree too, depends on what you mean by submissive. I don't think there's anything wrong with letting him be the man in the relationship, I guess you could put it. But don't be submissive when it comes to abuse.

[bigedshult]

not if it is good for both of you. feel good with it.

[Nancy5]

In my household it is usually 50/50, there are times when he "wins", but there are equally times when I "win".  In my opinion there is NO reason for a man to ever lay his hands on a woman.  If my husband ever did that there would never be a second chance.  I am 5'5" and he is 6'1", but I have never been afraid to argue with him and stand up for what I think.  We have had our share of fights but never would I allow physical fighting.  In our house we have no "king", it's always been a joint relationship and neither one of us is submissive.