Nosy people

[teenangel]

My husband is so nosy that every time I'm one the phone or on the computer video chatting with friends he listens in on every conversation. My husband accuses me of things when I'm talking face to face with friends I just reunited with after twenty years.  This is very annoying to me every time I tell him that there nothing going on he just starts calling me out of my name. I gave him one to many chances. Tell me friends do you hate when some one buts into you phone and online video chats.

[patycake56]

That sounds like my husband lol and yes it gets unnerving

[teenangel]

I hate it he seems like he don't trust me. It seems like he is the only one who can have friends. But he keeps his friends a secret. At least he know who I'm talking to right.

[countrygirl12]

Idk.  I would figure it was normal for a husband or a wife to ask who you were talking to.

[teenangel]

No its not. Not when he's being so secretive. A least I'm not being sneaky like he is.

[BlackSheepNY]

My husband is so nosy that every time I'm one the phone or on the computer video chatting with friends he listens in on every conversation. My husband accuses me of things when I'm talking face to face with friends I just reunited with after twenty years.  This is very annoying to me every time I tell him that there nothing going on he just starts calling me out of my name. I gave him one to many chances. Tell me friends do you hate when some one buts into you phone and online video chats.

Your husband sounds like he's just a tad bit insecure.  I also saw you stated that he can have friends, but his are a secret.  Really?  Then maybe on top of being insecure he's got a guilty conscience, too.  What's HE doing that he thinks YOU may be doing, also???

[minioncookies]

Oh lawd. You know there is always 2 sides to every story.. I know woman do the same thing.. so it's not like any one sex is innocent of not being nosey.. Everyone gets a little nosey sometimes.. we stick our nose where it don't belong. or put our 2 cents in where it's not needed.. Maybe if we learned to share insteadof complain it would work out a little better..Include your husband & or wife in things and they wouldn't be so nosey.. Girl talk usually makes guy's run the other way.. So if you include him.. and he isn't intrested.. He wouldn't be nosey.. and you wouldn't be bothered...Same thing goes with girls they don't always like hearing about tools, and or hunting.. I mean what would it hurt to include them into the converstaion? They would more than likely not be intrested in the first place they just wanted to be included... It's a small price to pay for peace.... (:

[demaina]

Asking something like "Who are you talking too" and then leaving it at that would be fine in my book, but if he is getting overly nosy, that might be a problem.  I had a friend who's boyfriend wouldn't let her hang out with her guy friends because he figured she would cheat on him with them.  It was a little strange and we later found out that he was cheating on her.  Generally people aren't so nosy for no reason.  People tend to project their behavior onto others, so perhaps he has something going on in his life and that's why he assumes you probably do to.  Or I could be completely blowing this out of proportions, but just something to think about.

[sanglee]

thats what happens with insecurity, people are just like that but if you find a dishonest one he or she wont stop

[msmoneybags48]

I have had it to happen to me too.  I have heard it said that when a person has to be that nosy and insecure, nine times out of 10 it is something he or she has done and they have the fear that their significant other will do it to them too.  I don't care what they say:  whatever is in the dark eventually comes to the light.  But bringing it up as though you are doing something makes him sound bear-watching.  The truth will come out because you are going to want to know why he is so insecure.

[weased]

    Sounds like ya`ll have trust issues, but that`s the  phsyco babble explanation. All men are born with possession issues. When a man is in a relationship, his counterpart becomes his possession, a possession so valuable to him, he`s not willing to share and he must control his possession. Most of us overcome this issue, sooner or later

[6265AT99]

I would be very annoyed especially if it was my husband who was being the nuisance.  In addition, I think maybe your husband needs some sort of hobby so that he won't be "watching" you so much!!!

[raven1114]

He sounds rather insecure.

[teenangel]

I my friends online via video chat for that reason so he knows who I'm talking to. The friend I haven't seen in twenty years lives in Florida and we haven't seen or spoken to each other until we were reunited a few weeks ago via the internet and Face book. Now we mostly video chat. whats wrong with that? 

[vp44]

Reason's why anger steps in is 1 the friend is a man. 2 hiding things. 3 You making more out of it than it really is. Marriage is a partnership and friendship you get out of it what you put into it.