"do not take offense"

[Gerianne]

this is a tough one to live by.
I have a hard time with it.
Sometimes, people don't think before they talk.

[lbeery]

Sure is.  Some people just try to goad you into a response for their own reasons.  But, taking offense just drags you down and peels off energy you can use for other things.  I t is also so distracting!  Just smile and say isn't that nice. SOuthern style.

[loulizlee]

If you are tempted to start a sentence with "Do not take offense," I think you should think again before you say it out loud.

[BATISTAGIRL663]

i dont let people get to me any more--the older i get the more i just let things roll off my back--as long as i am happy with me then things are good

[sherryfan]

It is a hard one for me also.  I always think a long time for what they have said. I sure agree, if they don't know how to act or talk, just keep quiet. People do have feeling   

[demaina]

It depends on what the group of people are and what is said.  Most of the time I can let things roll off my back, but there are a few things that depending on how it's said, it will really upset me.  A lot of the generic "all women are <blanket statement>" and that drives me up the wall.  I understand that some people come across a ton of people that all act the same way, but it isn't every single person on the planet.

[reiddb]

The Bible says where many words abound, so does sin....

[BlackSheepNY]

this is a tough one to live by.
I have a hard time with it.
Sometimes, people don't think before they talk.

I don't know about this one.  If it was me and I was asking a question that pertained to me, I would expect a truthful reply.  So if I were to ask a friend, "Does this dress look nice on me?" and she replies, "Don't take offense, but you look like a 91-year old grandmother." well, I got what I asked for, didn't I?  How could I be offended?  People put WAY too much emphasis on "offense" these days.  It seems like more and more people get offended over the stupidest things.  If you don't want to hear the truth, don't ask for it.

[debidoo]

I really do not like the phrase " do not take offense" because anyone who prefaces something with that seems to be admitting they know whatever they are saying next is offensive and they want to say it bad enough that they are hoping they can get by with the listener not becoming offended when they know that they will but the speaker doesn't care.  Interesting lol.

[lovermont]

Starting a sentence with "No offense..." usually means they are about to say something offensive, but they really don't mean it that way. It could be a constructive criticism, because they truth will benefit you, but it is really hard to not be at least a little hurt by what they say.

[Mikena]

Sure is.  Some people just try to goad you into a response for their own reasons.  But, taking offense just drags you down and peels off energy you can use for other things.  I t is also so distracting!  Just smile and say isn't that nice. SOuthern style.

I totally agree with you on this subject. I have found that when a person feels the need to make this comment then what comes out of their mouth after that is usually intended to be offensive. When I find myself in this situation, I make the reply " none Taken", then I will follow up with what my response is on what ever the subject matter is. I will end the conversation with "No Harm Intended" and hope you have a Great Day! That's what I call Checkmate!