Girlfriend & husband

[Nancy5]

Can anyone come up with an idea?  We hang around with a group of 5 couples (all married over 25 years).  Many times two or more of the girls go out someplace and then go to dinner.  The one friend always invites her husband to join us for dinner.  Now it's not that we don't like him, but it was suppose to be a girl's night out.  The other girls and myself do not invite or want our husbands to join us.  We love this couple, but what can we say to her, without causing a fight or broken friendship, that we don't want him to join us on these nights? 

[plennis]

You just need to tell her straight out, when it is not on the day you are going.  Just tell her you all love your husbands, but every once in a while you want to have just a girls night out.  NO men allowed.  Maybe she has just misunderstood since you usually go as a group.   

[countrygirl12]

Simple fix.  Just tell her "it's a "girls" night out" not a girls and your husband night out.  Looks like he would be uncomfortable and you would think she would get the picture when he was the only guy.

[vp44]

Let her know that it is a girls nights out and all should join in on this and not let it be just be you so you wont be the only one singled out if it goes wrong.

[michele2042]

I agree with the others, be kind but straightforward.   Maybe ask her why she feels it necessary for hubby to come along.  Do you know for sure that she wants him or is he perhaps being "insistent" on attending.   Maybe the hubbies can  have a guys night out the same as the girls night out.    One really never knows what goes on behind closed doors so I would tread lightly if anyone suspects the hubby might be a bit jealous, etc.   

[anitaraemillspalmer]

Can anyone come up with an idea?  We hang around with a group of 5 couples (all married over 25 years).  Many times two or more of the girls go out someplace and then go to dinner.  The one friend always invites her husband to join us for dinner.  Now it's not that we don't like him, but it was suppose to be a girl's night out.  The other girls and myself do not invite or want our husbands to join us.  We love this couple, but what can we say to her, without causing a fight or broken friendship, that we don't want him to join us on these nights? 

Is her husband controlling?? Just tell her the truth just like you said above...A girl's night...is exactly that girl's only...I wouldn't hesitate to tell her...if he still wants to join then he must dress appropriately...like a women...lol

[sherryfan]

tell them can invite all of them in some other time, but this time is girls night.   

[CharmedPhoenix]

Have you tried using the term "girls only".  Perhaps involve her in planning both a group activity and a "girls only" activity.  Maybe she'll see the difference.  Maybe all of you girls could get together to plan a "girls only" day making a point to plan activities that "the guys wouldn't be interested in".  Someone could make comments about how the guys wouldn't like whatever you're planning and how good it'd be to do girl things without the guys.  The guys could plan a parallel event for just them so her husband would have something to do too. 

[luvh8tragedy87]

As everyone else has suggested just tell her it's a girls only thing. Nothing against her husband, you can all do something at a later date, but sometimes you just want to be with the girls.

[reiddb]

I would just say, is it ok that we make this just a girl thing?

[Skyisbluetoday]

Just let her know in a nice way!

[dreamyxo]

Don't tell her when you go out. Mount yes you have to tell her look can we just have girl time for once?  No men allowed please.

[countrygirl12]

Let her know that it is a girls nights out and all should join in on this and not let it be just be you so you wont be the only one singled out if it goes wrong.

Very true.  Was in a situation like this where "I" was the one who actually spoke out and then when the person got mad the rest of the clan threw me to the dogs and acted like it was all me and then had the gall to say to me "well you can't make people mad".  I DONE WHAT U TOLD ME TO!   I def would not say anything on my own but if she always invites hubby along it is going to be hard to tell her when the entire group is there.

[catchow]

countrygirl12 ouch that was not cool of your friends, but yeah I can see that happening.

Sorry I dont have any tips, but it would bother me too, probably noone has said anything as they dont want the same situation happen that did to countrygirl12

[pmagalei]

That is kind of hard. For me as a man, if I am going out with my wife and I don't see the other Ladies with their man something should automatically clicked. Maybe the husband thinks that it is alrite for him to go just for safety reasons. LOL Maybe your friend hasn't been told yet it is a girl's only night out. Does she know???