Living with Grown children

[UGetPaid]

Even though she's legally an adult I don't consider her to be fully grown.

18 is just a number.  I was no where near mature enough at 18 to be living on my own - stayed at home until I was 24. The age of independence is different for each child.

[ghunter]

My daughter lived with me for about 22 months and she could not wait to leave, because my husband and I have rules and as long as she lived under our roof she had to obey.  All in all it was ok.

[adriarobi]

I did it once to help my son and family have a house for the kids.

Daughter in law was very "self first", and it became a nightmare.

She left him later, and I helped my son raise his kids for several years.

We were not able to make a go of it. A few are.  Happy for them if they can.

 

[potluck6]

Our 25yr old son lives with us. He is a big help since i'm mildly disabled.Does yard work and housework. He started to put in a new kitchen floor then he got a new girlfriend so that project has been waiting on him.Rents are so high in Ca 1 bd 1300-1400  dollars if they want to move in together .Thats a way off i think. Think he'd have to live close by i can see myself rolling out the garbage cans in my wheelchair and  how hard it would be,i'd just keep on rolling.

[countrygirl12]

I have a  17 year old at home and she can be just as bossy but even moodier.  My older son and daughter live on their own but sometimes spend a week end with us.  It is worse when there are 2 of them together because it seems like they like to gang up on me and my husband.  Can't imagine what will happen if I ever have to live with any of them. 

17 is not an adult.  I would not put up with a teenager being a smart mouthed punk.  I would shut that down in a hurry.  But if she is that way then it didn't just start over night.  It should have been stopped a long time ago.  I don't think I would put up with adult children coming and staying with me and ganging up on me either.

[countrygirl12]

It has to be difficult to live with your grown children.  For the most part, it would depend on their personality, but I can see how problems could arise.  Kids who have grown into adults can be bossy and opinionated about how they want things done or what they think in general.  I have heard grown children treat their elderly parents like they are senile when they aren't.  That would be a big problem!

A lot of times they do or just treat them like they are stupid or what ever.  I hate seeing that happen.  I have seen people in Walmart talking down to someone elderly that they are with.  But throat punching them is frowned upon.

[countrygirl12]

Even though she's legally an adult I don't consider her to be fully grown.

18 is just a number.  I was no where near mature enough at 18 to be living on my own - stayed at home until I was 24. The age of independence is different for each child.

There are not too many 18 year olds who have a job that pays enough to be able to live on your own.

[countrygirl12]

Our 25yr old son lives with us. He is a big help since i'm mildly disabled.Does yard work and housework. He started to put in a new kitchen floor then he got a new girlfriend so that project has been waiting on him.Rents are so high in Ca 1 bd 1300-1400  dollars if they want to move in together .Thats a way off i think. Think he'd have to live close by i can see myself rolling out the garbage cans in my wheelchair and  how hard it would be,i'd just keep on rolling.

lol.  I am sorry.  But that cracked me up.  I just have this mental picture of you in a wheel chair rolling 2 garbage cans down the drive way and not stopping at the end and just rolling down the road. 

Random driver:  Calls 911
911 What's your emergency?
Random driver: uhm there is this uh person in a wheel chair that uh is rolling down 32nd street with 2 big garbage cans in front of her. 

[mrisha]

No, my child does not live with me.  She lives in her own house with her son.  They seem to have a few problems but I think she is ready for him to get out of her house. 

[debidoo]

I really appreciate everyone's perspective on this post.  I love my sons and they are the only thing between me and having no family.  Sometimes they are bossy and opinionated but it could be worse - they are good people and the three of us are trying to buy a new house & get out of a dilapitated living condition so yes I have a lot to be thankful for

[swell455]

Doesn't hurt my mom.

[sherryinutah]

We are in the process of buying a house with our youngest son and his family of four, but we will have the entire lower floor with 2 bdrm, bath, kitchen, laundry and living room to ourselves. From our calculations it will be a lot less expensive and help will always be nearby.

Hey Old Buddy - Sounds like a financially intelligent decision if you and your wife can deal with the sound of 8 feet walking on your ceiling. 

I lived in an apartment where I had to deal with people living above me.  Never again. Good luck with that.   

[PGS28]

I absolutely agree even though I, on the other hand, left home at 17 and did quite well.

Even though she's legally an adult I don't consider her to be fully grown.

18 is just a number.  I was no where near mature enough at 18 to be living on my own - stayed at home until I was 24. The age of independence is different for each child.

[PGS28]

Well I did quite well to be on my own at 17 considering the circumstances.

[sak4kat]

My daughter didn't want to live with us when she turned 18.  She woke up.. packed her suitcase along with a few other things and headed out into the big bad world.  I had to work before noon that day so it was a quick goodbye. She's visited a couple of times over the course of the year.  While typing this my husband walked into our sons room and said, "Hey 3 months until your 18."   This guy will probably stay with us for a while to save some $$$. It'll be a while before our youngest get's to that point.  If my kids want to live with us as adults... there are household rules and expectations to follow. As an adult when I moved back in with my Mom with my kids I had rules and expectations.  Didn't always like em' but dealt with it.