asking for a tip?

[tjshorty]

I used to work as a waitress, never asked or hinted for a tip.  I think that is so rude.  Here lately when I order delivery, I fully intend to tip.  But when the order is 30.00 and I pay with 2 twenties, these people feel the need to say, "Do you want your change?"  I feel like telling them well now that you asked yes all of it.  But,  I tell them yes, with the difference in the tip.  Do you think it's rude to ask for a tip?  I do. I also think it rude not to tip. 

[1imaginarygirl]

If you gave them $10 over, how are they supposed to know how much of that is a tip or not? Is it a $10 tip, or do you want $5 back? They have to ask, if you haven't told them. How is that rude?

[bremer51]

If I pay with cash, I often have the waitstaff ask, "do you want change?"  This does not bother me in the least. 

[makeblessed]

I don't think it is rude; they need to know how much change you would like to get back; when I pay with cash, I generally just add their tip in and  tell them to keep the change; I know it it hard for people who work in that type of industry so I try and tip based on their level of service.

[Nancy5]

What I do if the bill is say $12.00 and I hand them. $20.00 I would say just give me back $3.00.  I figure that way they know they are getting a tip. 

[dreamyxo]

Yes.  I stopped going to a certain favorite buffet last year because the waitress was standing there trying to be aggressive about getting a tip.  I usually just got carryout there but that day we ate in.  It's a buffet so I leave a few dollars on the rare occasion I eat in but that time was the last straw because I never had someone do that.  It's a freaking buffet you don't even bring the food.  Then she's also going to claim that we didn't pay when we did.  So I'm done with that place. Thinking about it now I should have send a letter explaining why they lost some loyal customers.

[countrygirl12]

I have never had any one ask do you want your change but have had them ask do you need change. I would not think that is asking for a tip. Most wait staff do want a tip. That is how they make their money and they trash talk you if you do not leave a tip or do not leave a large enough tip.  I hate seeing the tip jars every where. You are paid x amount to be a cashier then you took the job for that amount of pay.  Don't expect me to give you a tip to ring my stuff up.

dreamyxo - I doubt they care why you did not come back.  They have other customers so loosing one doesn't matter to them.

[potluck6]

So they expect a 10.00 tip kind of high for  a pizza delivery. I never understand why you have to tip a hairdresser. Maybe if they made more per hour that would help.

[gtdoss]

Yes, I was a waitress for a short while in my early 20s, and I would never have asked for a tip. On one hand, I was only paid half of minimum wage with the other half presumed to be paid with tips. On the other hand, some people were too cheap to pay a decent tip, but I would immediately let it go and move on with my shift. If I were now delivering food, I would just hand customers their change and just hope that they would pay me a tip out of that. Maybe it's a difference in generations? 

[alina6]

I think the proper method would be to say I'll be right back with your change if you are in a restaurant. This way if I want to give them the whole tip I can always say "keep the change" but the decision is mine.

[fillfran82]

I used to work as a waitress, never asked or hinted for a tip.  I think that is so rude.  Here lately when I order delivery, I fully intend to tip.  But when the order is 30.00 and I pay with 2 twenties, these people feel the need to say, "Do you want your change?"  I feel like telling them well now that you asked yes all of it.  But,  I tell them yes, with the difference in the tip.  Do you think it's rude to ask for a tip?  I do. I also think it rude not to tip. 

Hi there!

No I don't think it is rude. Yes you do the right thing and tip that doesn't mean others do the same. They are doing you a service it's not rude to ask. Whats rude is how they ask because you know they always expect it. It is always your choice though!

[miltonarmitage]

In my opinion, a tip is given when one is deserved and if the customer feels like doing so. To ask for a tip or factor it into the bill is tacky, how about being grateful for getting some business? no customer, no business. I've worked a lot of jobs too, only on a rare occasion would I get a tip and not usually when I felt it was deserved oddly enough. So since it's expected for a customer to leave a little something for service, what should be left if service is bad?   

[lightningclix]

I think it depends on how they ask. If they are rude, then that would fall on not getting a big tip or any, depending on my mood for the day. I always tip, unless they have been HORRIBLE.

I have worked at places and never have or would feel right asking for a tip.

[Tresbn00]

I think you are dead on. The person providing the service should never assume that change is theirs or that they are entitled to a tip. Better than average service should result in appreciation by way of a tip. Business owners should not get tipped unless they have made an exception in their schedule to meet your needs. One of the jobs that I used to pay for college was a as a waiter at a five star restaurant. I did table side cooking at least once for each (which was above and beyond what most servers would offer) and every table that sat in my section. My tips averaged about twenty four percent and I had return requests covering over thirty percent of the tables I waited on. I never expected wonderful tips but loved taking care of the State's elite and sharing ideas.

[darkxtsuna]

I mostly never over pay when I order for food like when I buy something that cost 30$ I make sure I have exactly 30$ and few dollars more for tip.