What do you think?

[angie828]

Do you think that you have to be married to have children?  I say no as long as the child is born into love it does not matter if you are married or not.  But others disagree with me.  I say as long as you love the person you have the child with and you love the child then it is no big deal.

[hicaniplay]

I say as long as you have the financial means and time, as well as the inclination, then feel free.
But love doesn't feed and clothe a baby. And it certainly isn't needed to produce one.

Though really I don't think you even have to have a second person - well, if you're a woman anyways. Just go for invitro and skip the bar.

Marriage isn't for the child, it's for the parents.
Although everyone will probably assume you're married anyways, unless you don't live together and hardly see each other. Then they'll assume you're divorced.


Of course, I'm a *bleep* child - my mom had a very bad first marriage and decided "never again" so my dad and her never married but had four kids together just fine.

[LorynFallon]

As long as you can support your children, I don't care if it's a single mom, a single dad, two dads, two moms or whatever. It kills me to see so many women who can't get pregnant or gay couples who have to jump through hoops to adopt when so many people get pregnant by accident because they won't use birth control or condoms or won't wait until they can handle a child and all the responsibilities that go with it and end up bringing children into terrible situations and then leaching off the government. If you want to have sex, use a condom. It's a lot cheaper than a baby and even though it might not feel as good as without one, it certainly feels a lot better than STD's or HIV!

[eduby]

Definitely not important.  I think (and hope) that society is changing at least a bit to be more accepting of the fact that you don't need to be married to have a loving happy family. 

[AmyTrivitt]

NO, why would you have to be married to have a child??
I had both my children without being married! (Although I was with their dad the whole time, we have been together for years & years) But you know what I loved the comment another wrote, Marriage is for the parents NOT the children. My children did not care that we were not married and yes they were happy when we got married. As we did not get married till they both could walk and talk. They were excited we were getting married and understood why I waited. Marriage should not be taken lightly and should not be brough about just because one gets pregnant. I wanted to make sure he was my ONE & only and that we could stand bye each others sides after lots of hard times and good before we took the vows. What is so wrong with that? People should not be so quick to judge others. I have alot of respect for single parents, you just do not know what their situation was and until any of us walk a mile in their shoes we never will.

[AmyTrivitt]

I wouldn't want to do it. I guess I am old-fashioned. I want to be married and have the father help me with the children. I also want all my kids by the same man.

So what that is you, and for your sake I hope this will happen for you. As with other people you are unaware, maybe the absent parent abuse them, ect ect start thinking out of the box and do not judge those who do not have the same view as you. That is why America is the way it is. Everone is sooooo quick to judge others. Step in their shoes for awhile.

[jylianhunt]

absoulutley not. everyone is differnt and marriage is just a state of being on a piece of paper.