WHAT WOULD YOU DO?

[kallug]

WHAT WOULD YOU DO IF YOUR SPOUSE FORGETS YOUR BIRTHDAY?

[SCarter984]

Choke their neck?  I don't know really.  Does it happen all the time, year in and year out?  Try leaving gentle messages a week before.  Like write it on the bathroom mirror in red lipstick.  You know men don't remember things like that.  Unfortunately, that part of their brains just don't work well.   If you just had a birthday that was forgotten, then HAPPY BIRTHDAY TO YOUUUU!

[kallug]

thats MY SISTER'S CASE today is her birthday.. and her husband has no clue till now.. she is getting messages from all over the world.. but he forgot..

[ULuvCeCe]

How long have they been together? Men can be such pains, not remember things. I'm sure if she forgot his birthday he would too   

[kallug]

its her second birthday.. after marriage.
the first one i told him in advance.. so this time she warned me not to..
so have to see what happens..

[feoplepeel]

If she's really so upset about it she needs to use what she learned in Kindergarten (her WORDS) to tell him her birthday's coming up and she's a bit perturbed he didn't know and that he should keep a calender from now on.  I'm one of those people who's in the mind that people take anniversaries and birthdays WAY too seriously, but if it's important to someone the other should respect that, SO LONG AS the other also acts like an adult who knows how to have adult conversations.  Example, if my husband forgets MY birthday, I'm not going to spend what is a perfectly good day pouting about it like a child, I'm going to talk to him about it.  He'll likely apologize and take me out.  Sorry if this comes off snappish, I don't know your family situation--I hope, though, it's not a sign he cares about her any less, just that he needs to learn some respect for a day she, and you, hold special.

[jkhanson]

If she's really so upset about it she needs to use what she learned in Kindergarten (her WORDS) to tell him her birthday's coming up and she's a bit perturbed he didn't know and that he should keep a calender from now on.  I'm one of those people who's in the mind that people take anniversaries and birthdays WAY too seriously, but if it's important to someone the other should respect that, SO LONG AS the other also acts like an adult who knows how to have adult conversations.  Example, if my husband forgets MY birthday, I'm not going to spend what is a perfectly good day pouting about it like a child, I'm going to talk to him about it.  He'll likely apologize and take me out.  Sorry if this comes off snappish, I don't know your family situation--I hope, though, it's not a sign he cares about her any less, just that he needs to learn some respect for a day she, and you, hold special.

I like this advice.  It won't do any good to spend a day pouting.  Good communication between the couple involved is the best plan.

[tzs]

Who cares? Does your spouse work alot? Does he constantly have paying the bills and making ends meet on his mind?  Does he ever get time to himself, to THINK and clear his head about things like your birthday he needs to remember, and finally-do you have kids?!?

This is my theory, If I can't even remember how old I was on my last birthday, then why should I hold him responsible for remembering  my birthday?

 Birthdays are a personal thing, you are celebrating the day you were born, which when you think about it-YOUR SPOUSE WASN'T THERE WHEN YOU WERE BORN!!! So why hold him to it so harshly? I think husbands really don't get enough credit on this topic. Why get mad at someone you love because that day slipped their mind??? It was just another day when he met you, as is his birthday was just another day-to you! Don't get me wrong, birthdays are important, but so many other factors where involved after you where born to get you by his side today, and  vice versa, so why not be thankfull for that?


I mean, what are you gonna do?  I  actually think its funny! We get going so fast in our daily lives that things slip our minds. 

It's like:

"oh yea!!! there was something else important I had to do today...But what is it??"
                               ".....HMMMMMM...."
                                (light goes out!!!)

I fall on the floor laughing when my husband doesn't remember things, because he is always on point all of the time! The point is that we are both laughing about it together!!!

 I think I would let him have that one, and chuckle along side him about both of our forgetfull brains!!!


But the fact that you are with the one you love NOW, and you are happy, totally outweighs the whole "pomp and circumstance" of remembering birthdays.

We are all human, and we forget from time to time-which is okay!  That doesn't mean he doesn't care about you any less than he does, unless there are some other underlying issues going on here between the two of you! I guess I am trying to say, Give him a Break!

I think I would be more upset at my Mom for forgeting my birthday, but it doesn't apply to me......

I am adopted-HA!!!!!

[1969fine]

Since it has never happened I really can't say. since mine is on April Fools Day its hard to forget. If he did he knows I don't forget. I'd make his life a living hell for awhile. He'd never forget it again!

[kallug]

heyy.. let me tell you this.. the situation was still the same till evening yesterday.. my sister prepared to give him a good class to only see that he has arranged a surprise party for her..
ohoo she is very happy now..

thank you very much for all your comments..

[SCarter984]

If she's really so upset about it she needs to use what she learned in Kindergarten (her WORDS) to tell him her birthday's coming up and she's a bit perturbed he didn't know and that he should keep a calender from now on.  I'm one of those people who's in the mind that people take anniversaries and birthdays WAY too seriously, but if it's important to someone the other should respect that, SO LONG AS the other also acts like an adult who knows how to have adult conversations.  Example, if my husband forgets MY birthday, I'm not going to spend what is a perfectly good day pouting about it like a child, I'm going to talk to him about it.  He'll likely apologize and take me out.  Sorry if this comes off snappish, I don't know your family situation--I hope, though, it's not a sign he cares about her any less, just that he needs to learn some respect for a day she, and you, hold special.

I like this advice.  It won't do any good to spend a day pouting.  Good communication between the couple involved is the best plan.

Spoken like a true adult.  I love this.  It's really all about communicating about the small things as well as the big ones.  I don't think this was snappish at all.  Just a thoughtful individual.

[Mickey001]

It just happened to me.  I just gave her a friendly reminder.  There are times in the past that I have forgotten hers.      

[ktheodos]

lol...idk either...perhaps return the favor??

[rigo23]

if my spouse forgot my birthday well first of all i wouldn't make a big deal about it because some people dont celebrate birthdays or holidays. so in my case i get it easy except for anniversaries.

[Hurricanekiz]

i don't know,  i would never let him forget, nor put him through the test to remember.  im the type who would tell you, to make sure you dont forget or  If i really didnt have no planns id try to let my birthday pass and wait till the last minute to say,  you didnt tell me happy birthday.