My 2 1/2 year old is swearing!

[BK_Adores_Chase]

I tried discipline but it doesn't even seem to phase him - he says it again the next day!  What should I do?

[willow80834]

oh my gosh....  first find out the main source of this where is he getting it from ?    try explaining them are big boy words and he cant use em....      my son went threw this when he was 6 got it from the bus rides home... nothing i did would make him stop so i rubbed his tooth brush across the top of the dawn dish soap and made him brush his teeth  he didnt swear after that   but 2.5 is to young for dawn i would think

[cubarican210]

I tried discipline but it doesn't even seem to phase him - he says it again the next day!  What should I do?

I saw this link and I thought of you.

Hope it helps.


http://www.ivillage.com/how-do-you-stop-your-toddler-cursing/6-n-146018

[samrhett2]

Instead of punishing your child for mimickry (something that 2 1/2 year olds naturally do) punish the person or person's who introduced your child to the words because they should know better, but he cannot.  I hate to sound like your mother but your child is a sponge.  Turn off the TV or if you have to watch shows that use those words, or watch it when your child is asleep.  But please, don't punish your kid for repeating words that you allow him to hear.  He is after all still learning to talk.  It is your job to show what type of behavior is acceptable.  If someone says those words in your child's presence let them know that they can't do it again.

[footemama]

Try not to encourage the behavior. Any attention that you give for it is going to be positive reinforcement even if you are trying to discipline them. I would go with what the article said and just say "please say _______ instead" and then heap on the praise whenever he/she says it.

It also depends on what he/she is saying how much you want to fix it or just let it go. AND if they are saying it all the time or just every once in awhile. Ultimately it is up to you. Personally the words that are replaced by crap and dang it I'm not going to worry too much about and just make sure that things like that are not said at school. I have too many people in my household with potty mouths (myself included sometimes) to spend time with those two.... I have explained that they are big people words but that's all. Anything else will definitely be dealt with first with the above mentioned correct and ignore method but I am willing to use soap later if I have to (around school age when they have a better idea of general rules of decorum in certain places).

GOOD LUCK! With a 2-year-old you will need it.

[kingreyam24]

My son is now 3 and what we did with him was ignore him. If we didn't make a big deal out of it, he never said the word again. Then, we did make a big deal out of words like stupid, that weren't swear words, but you really shouldn't say them. That way he thought those words were the bad words and those were the ones he kept saying. I know stupid isn't very nice for a 2 year old to say, but I would much prefer it over f**k or s**t.

[samrhett2]

oh my gosh....  first find out the main source of this where is he getting it from ?    try explaining them are big boy words and he cant use em....      my son went threw this when he was 6 got it from the bus rides home... nothing i did would make him stop so i rubbed his tooth brush across the top of the dawn dish soap and made him brush his teeth  he didnt swear after that   but 2.5 is to young for dawn i would think

Big boy words?  There really is no reason to condone them as big boy words either.  To each his own, but bad behavior is bad behavior whether is comes from someone who is 2 or 72.

[bretay]

Must be an age thing.My granddaughters went through the same thing.They didnt really say too many of the bad words.We explained that you cant always repeat what you hear.Those words are for big people.But they don't know,they're learning.My granddaughters started shooting birdys.Didn't last long.It came from there daddy though,it thought it was funny.And they only did it to him.Only lasted a short time.

[wallstreetkidx]

you should probably stop cursing in front of your kid   

[Dcownzu]

you should stop cursing in front of your kids

[BK_Adores_Chase]

Well I work 2 jobs, go to school full time, and have an internship starting this week - so he is at his Grandpa's most of the time.  I talked to his Grandpa about it, and he said he tries to watch his mouth but sometimes it slips and Darren picks up on everything.  I am going to put him in day care when I can afford it, but for now it's the only option I have.

[rigo23]

I understand your frustration I have nephews who I see frequently but once I hear what they say to others or to themselves it's sad. I would recommend headphones of something educational at least this way you know exactly what your child is listening I always try putting elmo or Dora but I think I going to try try your baby can read

[mlhnceh]

I just tell my kids that those are not nice words, they usually will stop then, and then if they repeat it again later, I remind them it is not a nice word and that they are not to say it.  2 1/2 is an age of imitation and also testing limits, so don't be too hard on him.  Sometimes the words they hear in daycare from other kids are worse than what they hear at home.   

I was discussing weather with my husband and said "they are calling for the s word" (meaning snow), and my 7 year old daughter started telling me about a boy in her class that uses the s word alot, but it's not nice.  I had to tell her I didn't mean that s word. 

[samrhett2]

Well I work 2 jobs, go to school full time, and have an internship starting this week - so he is at his Grandpa's most of the time.  I talked to his Grandpa about it, and he said he tries to watch his mouth but sometimes it slips and Darren picks up on everything.  I am going to put him in day care when I can afford it, but for now it's the only option I have.

It really is a shame how hard people have to work these days to support a family.  My mom always says that the problems these days is that moms all work so the kids are not raised right.  I remind her how much her and dad paid for our first house compared to what amount of money my dad made at that time.  His salary was 30% of the total house price.  So today to be able to have the same spending power as someone in the 60s, you need to have a salary of about 70K.  Not sure where you live but around here the average salary is no where near that amount.  So I applaud you on trying to better yourself and hopefully your schedule will be temporary.
 
You have identified the source of the problem, Grandpa and attempted to address the issue.  I hope he takes it to heart because if it continues once your child gets to day care, you may have a hard time finding a place that will allow him to stay. 

[lynnc35]

Well first thing is first, where is she getting this language, family, friends, playmates, or family guy, alot of tv shows are doing this, control what your kids watches, and any kind of language around them, they see other people do it, and see nothing wrong with it. It is hard to tell a two year old, don't do what someone else does, they do not comprehend this yet.