Divorces - Why?

[trucktina]

ddnbb88, I bet things would be a lot clearer if you sought professional help for your depression. There are charity orgs. that will see you for $5. or free, so don't let cost be a barrier to feeling better.

I had a hard break up about a year ago, from a 2+ year relationship. Both of us had emotional issues, mental health issues, that we needed to deal with separately. Good luck to you!

i go to therapy once a week and i dont need charity its covered by my insurance....thanks anyways

You're welcome. I wanted to be sure you had found someone to talk to. You sounded so hopeless! (Believe me, I've been there.)

[Tonisha11]

In my opinion people marry to early. I think that you should at least be 30 before considering marriage. So that you have experienced enough of your life to know what you really want. Money problems and temptation seem to be the main reasons why people divorce.

[hammy12]

if your not happy with the one your with get the hell out. My only gripe is if you have kids, then god dammit stick it, so they have a stable family. The whole justice sytem is designed to to benefit the woman and to suppress the man. Its designed to keep families apart to keep them from uniting against government. Keep a single mom single give them every benefit known, and what does a man get? Allamony child support, and prison, because he cant pay because they took his license away and he cant get a job. Does any of that make sense??

[BabyMamaBoutique]

My parents were divorced.  It sucked for a while but they grew into much stronger people.  I have been married for ten years almost and it is def. hard sometimes.  But as long as you respect each other and allow each other to grow, you should be okay. lol

[greatestenergy7]

  STAY COOL AND DON'T GET INVOLVED IN THE FIRST PLACE. YOUR TOOOO YOUNG!

[travislang]

that is why there are a compromise in this situation,   just like my wife and i are doing...yes we want different things inlife...but we are coming up with a compromise, yes i want children of my own but she cant,   so i am stuck in this,    but is it enough to leave her,,, no i do love her and as you christians say the bible says love does know all, endours all, does not make jealous, does not look for faults, does not put down another,   as far as cheating goes, it is wrong yes but not a end of marriage, he/she may have voided the vows but you remained faithful i assume so you did not. according to your bible it does say adultry is acceptable for divorce, but i would try to work it out first, and if you say you love the person then why would you want to leave as i said above love concures all...that is according to your bible, now im sorry i am assuming your christian....so if i sound to be a A**hole here, i just feel strongly on this subject, and hate lazyness in all ways... to many people try to get out so the dont have to work on it, if you are actually trying to work it out i do applaud you for it, but it does take work not just going to see a therapist, they just guide you in what you should do, but up to you to actually do something..

[ddnbb88]

ddnbb88, I bet things would be a lot clearer if you sought professional help for your depression. There are charity orgs. that will see you for $5. or free, so don't let cost be a barrier to feeling better.

I had a hard break up about a year ago, from a 2+ year relationship. Both of us had emotional issues, mental health issues, that we needed to deal with separately. Good luck to you!

i go to therapy once a week and i dont need charity its covered by my insurance....thanks anyways

ya i was really upset that day.....somedays feel hopelessly sad and i just vent but somedays are happy and wonderful....were just trying our best to figure things out and make it work. im really emotional i wear my heart on my sleeve and when i feel i feel STRONG. if that makes sense at all lol

You're welcome. I wanted to be sure you had found someone to talk to. You sounded so hopeless! (Believe me, I've been there.)

[ddnbb88]

In my opinion people marry to early. I think that you should at least be 30 before considering marriage. So that you have experienced enough of your life to know what you really want. Money problems and temptation seem to be the main reasons why people divorce.

i agree with you 100% i married at 26 and im about to be 28 and we are having problems i blame myself for a lot of stuff like being too young and naive and silly and foolish and not thinking clearly and letting certain things go when i should have addressed them earlier in the relationship. i wish i had waited

[ddnbb88]

if your not happy with the one your with get the hell out. My only gripe is if you have kids, then god dammit stick it, so they have a stable family. The whole justice sytem is designed to to benefit the woman and to suppress the man. Its designed to keep families apart to keep them from uniting against government. Keep a single mom single give them every benefit known, and what does a man get? Allamony child support, and prison, because he cant pay because they took his license away and he cant get a job. Does any of that make sense??

for once people are saying things i agree with!!!!!!!!!!!!!! i am married to a man who has two children from a previous marriage and that is EXACTLY what is happening to him. she cheated got pregnant with another mans child when they already had two together so she divorced him so she could be with her new man and yet she nailed him to the wall.....i think there are some single moms who deserve the benefits but there are many who use the system in ways they shouldnt .....she cheated got prenant by another man WHILE THEY WERE MARRIED yet he has to pay allimony and child support and she is always playing games about him not seeing the kids and if he is one day late in paying her she tries to put him in jail. i cant stand it when girls get preggers at 17 and then realize they want to party instead or be with another guy so they blame everyone else for what happened to them when really if she just didnt spread her legs at 16 and 17 she wouldnt have this problem

[ddnbb88]

that is why there are a compromise in this situation,   just like my wife and i are doing...yes we want different things inlife...but we are coming up with a compromise, yes i want children of my own but she cant,   so i am stuck in this,    but is it enough to leave her,,, no i do love her and as you christians say the bible says love does know all, endours all, does not make jealous, does not look for faults, does not put down another,   as far as cheating goes, it is wrong yes but not a end of marriage, he/she may have voided the vows but you remained faithful i assume so you did not. according to your bible it does say adultry is acceptable for divorce, but i would try to work it out first, and if you say you love the person then why would you want to leave as i said above love concures all...that is according to your bible, now im sorry i am assuming your christian....so if i sound to be a A**hole here, i just feel strongly on this subject, and hate lazyness in all ways... to many people try to get out so the dont have to work on it, if you are actually trying to work it out i do applaud you for it, but it does take work not just going to see a therapist, they just guide you in what you should do, but up to you to actually do something..

but what if he cheats and we work it out and he cheats again.....and keeps cheating....what if you have been married to a person for a year to find out they have cheated on you every week since you been married and with like 3 or 4 different women......what if u forgive all that only for him to say "im never going to stop cheating" or what if he says he will but he never does.....sorry no woman should have to live worried about if her husband is going to get another woman preggers out of wed lock or if she is going to catch an std

[apples45]

If you are someone who believes in marriage and you have a strong devoted partner, and are truly in love then you cant worry about what others think. I was raised with traditional values but as I get older my views on marriage are mixed because of the divorce rate, and other factors, and I learned that getting married can put undo stress on a relationship and there are a lot of expectation's that come with getting married, but I'm not completely closed off to the idea, but right now I have no interest in marriage.

As for why people get divorced there's no definitive answer but I think that if two people are unhappy in there marriage after doing everything they could to stay together then divorce in some cases is the best thing, imagine if divorced did not exist there would be a lot of unhappy people the world

But all that aside marriage is like taking a leap of faith and if you are ready you must remain optimistic and open and not give too much thought on all the negative things just be realistic because life is not a fairy tail.

[PMZ908]

people fall out of love because they get sick of each other