Can jelousy and insecuritys mess up a relationship? What is your opinion?

[monasiers]

MIKE AND HIS SHENISE BEEN IN A RELATIONSHIP FOR 2 YEARS..THE WHOLE 2 YEARS SHENISE IS VERY JEALOUS OF OTHER FEMALES & BEEN ACUSSIN MIKE OF SLEEPIN AROUND.EVEN THO MIKE BEEN FAITHFUL 2 YEARS HE THINKIN BT VENTING KUZ OF SHENISE JEALOUSY AND ACCUSATIONS..SHOULD MIKE KEEP DEALIN WIT SHENISE AND CCONTINUE TO BE FAITHFUL OR SHOULD HE KUTT SHENISE OFF EVEN THO HE LOVE HER DEARLY?

[cloudsoup]

well, mike...
jealousy and insecurities are some of the best
ingredients for ruining a relationship. true fact!

but there's always two sides to every story,
not that i'm taking shenise's side...but does she
have any little evidence to back her accusations
up? if she's just pulling them out her behind, i say
you need to call it quits.

relationships are nothing without trust.

[monasiers]

I totaly agree with you, if their isnt any trust in a relationship then i believe theirs no reason to be in a relationship at all. Relationships are based on communication and trust and i believe if you have no proof of any cheating then its clearly your insecuritys getting in the way and thats somethin she would have to work on because you can loose out on alot!

[foreverinlove05]

yes that will ultimately mess up a relationship if the issue isn't addressed.

[Tresbn00]

I believe that trust, dedication and loyalty are at the basis of every relationship.  If there isn't trust there isn't a relationship.  I have seen relationships that have tried to survive after a mate has cheated and there i s always a strain thay is irreconcileable no matter what the couple says.  Self-esteem plays into the cheated partners psyche and they cannot overcome.

[sommap]

I agree with all of the comments.  It is not a relationship if you can't trust each other.  The insecurities and jealousy will eventually drive the other person away anyway.

[diala84]

When someone isn't trusting it can be a sign of a past trauma.
There are many reasons she may make these accusations
1)She was cheated on/lied to in a past relationship
2)She has a bad/complicated friend or family history (divorce, neglect, bullying, etc..)
3)She feels bad about something she did in the relationship and is lashing out because of it.
 
I would say that he should talk with her and make it clear he is concern about her.
And say he would never do anything to hurt her but the way she is treating him is
causing him to re-evaluation the relationship. He would like to have a trusting and honest
relationship but feels that she doesn't trust him and doesn't know how to make her feel more
secure about the relationship. He should suggest that they discuss why she feels so insecure.

If she is unwilling to see a flaw in her logic, talk about is sensibly or seek some help with her
trust issues he should break it off.

A relationship is work on both sides if she won't work on it then the relationship is doomed. 

[nickit]

Yes, it can definitely wreck a relationship.

[monasiers]

I agree with all who commented.A relationship must have trust i do believe their should be nothing but loyalty in a relationship as well great communication and ofcourse understanding. if you have all of thes i think the relationship would work just fine!! Thank you all for the feed back 

[healthfreedom]

Jealousy definitely hinders a healthy relationship. Relationships needs trust. Jealousy siphons off trust, so that leaves nothing but an empty shell of false and insecure feelings.

[lannl]

it is very difficult to be in a relationship with someone you cannot trust. It is an awful feeling to feel insecure and jealous. It is terrible not to be trusted by the person you are in a relationship with. I do not know what the solution would be.

[zeestar32]

Yup messed up a bunch of my friends relationship

[chavasarah]

SUre, to have a harmonious relationship you need to have self confidence and trust in your mate. If it's not the case then your self confidence is not strong enough or your mate is not worthy

[kodomfulmanar]

A little jealousy and insecurities I think are fine. But the example you talked about was not "a little", so no, not in that case

[sadie524]

Yes they can. I am a firm believer that some jealousy is healthy but too much can ruin a relationship--I know this from experience.