How to make friends when you are disabled and stuck at home?

[robin1128]

I to am disable and have a hard time meeting new people , I'm also on facebook look up robinakers on facebook

[willc98]

I'm on FB.  I've made a couple of friends in here and we've since connected on FB and Twitter.  Some of the people I play games with on FB have fibro, disabilites, cancer, etc.  They enjoy escaping from their pain and/or loneliness by interacting with people on these games that can relate or just take the time to play the games.  I'll go and look you up on there!  FC has a lot of really fine people on here, as you can see just in your thread here!!!   

Yea, I know.  Very nice people here

I do the same, I play Texas Hold'em on Facebook often a few hours a day.  I usually will try to get in a big game and start a conversation.  Sometimes you will find nice people and then can friend them.  I have a few people on facebook that play poker with me, but we don't talk much about anything else

[golotomer]

Thanks for the suggestions 

Here is my facebook profile if anyone wants to ever "friend" me.  Thanks again for all the support, it means a lot.

http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=44103542

I added you as a friend on Facebook.  I see you are mutual friends with Julie Cribb.  Julie and I talk on here some too.  I'll send you a message on FB after you accept my request. 

[golotomer]

I'm stuck at home and not able to get out.  After an accident a few years ago I'm not able to drive or walk (very well at least).  Plus being alone and feeling like my life has ended has made my mind worse.  Sitting in a bedroom for 2 years with no friends will mess your mind up.  I always had friends in high school and I lived with 3 other guys in college so I'm not used to being alone and having no one to talk to.  You really start to feel like you are just a bad person and no one likes you anyway.  I mean, I don't want friends who just feel sorry for me.  I just don't even know how to make friends anymore.  Maybe one day by some miracle I will get married, or get a friend close by who can drive.  I went to the grocery store about a month ago with someone.  But it just was so much trouble it's much easier to make a list.  I mean, I could go to a movie or out to eat.  But I'm also kind of out in the country, so there aren't really any places to go anyway.  Thanks for the response guys.
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Will are you a member of Pogo?  I play Canasta on there and am always looking for a buddy to play with. 

[pkrahmer]

HI
I understand that you have had a very difficult time but you do have the power to change that if you choose.
first there are always going to be people who feel sorry for you no matter what you do. If you want to start changing that the way people view you then start helping others. Use the phone and the internet to your advantage.
contact local churches or charities most are always looking for people to make phone calls to remind people of meeting fundraisiers etc
The more people you contact the more like you are to find something you can help with the elderly local fund raisers, solders over seas. Then help spread the word over the internet facebook . Start a blog  etc

I am on facebook you are welcome connect with me there Penny krahmer from Duxbury Mass.
Hope this helped
Have a great Day!

[Blugamer44]

for that thereis facebook, where you can make hundreds of friends within no time. 

[CHANEYLAKEGIRL]

I was going to suggest contacting a church as well. I do not know your beliefs and am not trying to suggest or force anything you are not interested in. I know our church has a shut in ministry and folks from the church will visit, take a meal, assist in some tasks you may need help with etc.  I wish you the best and my thoughts are with you.

[texaswhiterose]

I am disabled and unable to leave the house much myself. I am married though so that keeps me from going stir crazy. I have always had a hard time finding friends because I have a social phobia. I am however fine if friendships are kept online or in a pen pal situation. If you need and want a friend you can contact me directly on here (I think).

[lynnc35]

I think I know what you are going through somewhat, when I got hit by a car in 2009, I was stuck in a wheelchair, and it was hard, I couldn't drive, couldn't go places and couldnt' even bathe or do things that people do, it was really depressing for me. I am sure there is a church or someone you could call that probably someone would come and pick you up, or at least come and visit you, I know they will make extra things to help. Try contacting some of your local churches and let them know your situation, because you should not be alone. Remember God never leaves us, we can talk to Him at any time.

[mrisha]

Being by myself 24/7 for the past 2 years is really affecting me mentally.  I read a few things on what happens to prisoners after only 30 days in solitary confinement.  And it's very true.  And it's been 2 years for me.  I have no one.  I even started randomly asking people to be friends on my facebook just so I felt like I had friends, so pathetic.

I mean, I can't really go anywhere.  I can't drive.  It's very hard to get out and meet people.  Plus back in high school I never had any friends, so I doubt anyone would like me anyway.

What about forums like this?  Does anyone know how I could maybe find friends who really like me, and will actually care about what I go through, and me doing the same for them?

I'm just so sad.  For the first time in my life I woke up crying.  I was dreaming of about 50 people just laughing at me in a room for hours.

I'm just ranting, I don't want people to feel sorry for me.  I just need to let things out I guess.

First of all stopping feeling sorry for yourself and putting yourself down.  You are worth being friends with.  Twitter, Facebook and other social sites are available to meet people and become good friends.  Type a subject in search box  which interest you and you will people all over the world.  Guess what you can make friends starting here on FC.  Ranting can relieve the stress then get on with your life of giving.  God is with you every step.

[jcribb16]

Will,  thank you for accepting my friend request on FB!

[sgluckadoo]

this is a good question. My husband struggles with this as well. He has RA and doesnt have many friends bc he is so restrcited in what he can do.