hard to conceive another baby after miscarriages

[Storm61115]

as some of u know i've already had 2 miscarriages and the most recent of the 2 was in jan of this year. i'm finding it hard to conceive again. my friend tell me not to give up, but its easier said then done coz it just never happens. i'm sad coz i want to give my fiance a baby that he wants but its just not happening. dr. never said my reproductive organs are bad.. so i dont get it. i hope it isnt his fault. both of us will be crushed. we rather do this naturally so when it does happen .. we both did it! we dont want to force it to happen, but nature isnt being good to us.

[junis57601]

Don't give up, hun! I'm the oldest and I was supposed to be a twin. My sibling was still-born. Then 2 1/2 years later my Mom had a miscarriage. I am so glad Mom and Dad didn't stop trying, I have 2 of the most wonderful sisters and a (chithead) of a brother that I wouldn't trade for anything!

[mintopewku]

Conceiving can be difficult, even if there isn't a history of miscarriaging.  Not all women talk about it, and some are unaware even, but it is very typically for women to miscarry their first pregnancy.  Certainly environment factors play a role.  Too much stress, a bad diet, overweight, smoking, travel, etc.  All these things can affect getting pregnant.  Overall, it happens when it happens.  Often when a women stops thinking about it.  The body knows best, even though we wish we could have more control.  It is your body's decision to miscarry, it knows the pregnancy wasn't viable.  I do encourage you to speak with your doctor if you are concerned.  The initial tests are easy, and some women have given great reviews to the OTC options.  I know my sister took 6 months to get pregnant and did use the OTC test to know when she was ovulating.  Best of luck and wish you & your family the best.

[jwalker9316]

I am so sorry you are going through this. Infertility and loss can be devastating. I agree you should discuss it with your doctor if you are concerned.

[dmahoney]

Sorry to hear about this. They say that it sometimes is just as much mental as physical. I am not saying you are crazy. I am saying maybe you are too focused on it and trying to hard. Try to relax and destress. Get a massage. Make it about romance again and let nature take its course. Good luck! 

[heather_sergent]

I am soo sorry this is happening to you.. I know how you feel.. I have been trying for 5 years now and i miscarriaged one at 13 weeks.. I want a child so bad but I feel the same way you Let it just happen.. I will pray that it happens if it is meant to be it will happen.. Again I am so sorry.

[smithjcsdfw]

Best advice I can give you is from an old country doctor who told us that we should just relax and enjoy the joourney.

[tantricia44]

Sometimes when 2 people want something really bad, it just doesn't happen right or it just doesn't happen. Maybe the thing to do before trying again is to get both you & your mate tested for underlining conditions that could be preventing you from successfully conceiving. Sometimes when women try to conceive at a later age than their late 20's & early 30's counterparts sometimes the egg is damaged.Females will have all the eggs they'll ever need in their lifetime but unfortunately, as we age so does our eggs. Males, they'll always have fresh sperm each time but recent studies have found that the older the male is the more likely to have many damage sperm. Usually, children born from older male fathers are born with abnormal conditions such as retardation,spina bifia, down syndrome,autism.....eta.... There might be something as simple as something lacking in your diet that contribute to the on set of miscarriage. Finally, I agree w/the old fashion way to getting prego, don't project on the issue like a do or die agenda. Make you & your mate think of it as not trying to have a baby but to have fun enjoying each other. There was a cause where a couple almost divorced b/c of failing to conceive blaming each other. They got help to mend the marriage & both decide to adopt a child. With their new adopted child & a new start in their relationship things were going great! 3months later, the wife's periods stopped she thought she was going into menopause. Crying hysterically to her hubby that she's no longer a "real," woman & it's over for her in the child bearing department. 9 months later this family brings home a set of twins! So, don't give up hope & during this time try to get as much support as you can get for you & your mate. & most importantly, love & support each other communicate all your worries & issues to each other, so there's no misunderstanding along the way.

[vicogden]

Miracles CAN and DO happen, so stick in there.  Good luck and God bless!

[MessiahMews]

Chronic miscarriages can be due to alloimmunity.  That means a type of allergy to your partner's tissue type.

There is a mainstream treatment for that.  I forgot what the name of the treatment is exactly, but it's where they obtain the partner's blood, separate the while blood cells and inject it into both of your forearms.  It's sort of like they do allergy shots.

http://www.ivf1.com/miscarriage-cause/
http://www.chicagofertility.org/alloimmune.htm
http://community.babycenter.com/post/a24871295/alloimmunity_testing
http://www.gfmer.ch/Guidelines/Infertility_miscarriage_ectopic_pregnancy/Recurrent-miscarriage-alloimmune-causes.htm

Look up Michael Berkley acupuncture located in New York City.  He uses acupuncture to reverse infertility and miscarriage and it would work along with the mainstream treatments.  Indicators of infertility from an acupuncturist's perspective are liver qi congestion, kidney qi deficiency, spleen qi deficiency and blood stasis.

Also, you would probably need to do some detoxification, colon, liver, etc... and get some monster nutrition into your body for a year before conceiving.  Give your body some time to build up.

Also eating some wholesome foods, in addition to supplementation.

Also, have all hormones checked.  Low thyroid can cause miscarriages as well. Especially low progesterone.

[MessiahMews]

And this lady has helped couples with conceiving with homeopathy....

http://twitter.com/#!/FertilityFix

[Storm61115]

well guys after all the venting about not getting pregnant...my period was late and i was getting concerned coz its never late(except for march). my lower back was hurting like it was coming on but it hasnt came and wont come now ...BECAUSE... WE ...ARE... PREGNANT! i bought a test today to ease my mind.. and find out once and for all what was going on and..yes i was expecting a negative( if it was negative it would lead me to believe that there were other things going on) but it was a slow response but positive! bought 2 tests at 99 cents each from dollar general and took one right there in the store bathroom(after i had bought it of course! lol). i was gonna tell the cashier who sold it to me but she had a line of people checking out so i didnt want to bother her. so, i have told our immediate family members but not friends yet. we have an appointment with a nurse this coming thursday and then an ultrasound on july 5. hope we can see something.. coz last time we didnt see anything( but that was only after i went to the ER new years eve night with spotting from the threatened miscarriage that later was declared official in jan).

[falcon9]

well guys after all the venting about not getting pregnant...my period was late and i was getting concerned coz its never late(except for march). my lower back was hurting like it was coming on but it hasnt came and wont come now ...BECAUSE... WE ...ARE... PREGNANT! i bought a test today to ease my mind.. and find out once and for all what was going on and..yes i was expecting a negative( if it was negative it would lead me to believe that there were other things going on) but it was a slow response but positive! bought 2 tests at 99 cents each from dollar general and took one right there in the store bathroom(after i had bought it of course! lol). i was gonna tell the cashier who sold it to me but she had a line of people checking out so i didnt want to bother her. so, i have told our immediate family members but not friends yet. we have an appointment with a nurse this coming thursday and then an ultrasound on july 5. hope we can see something.. coz last time we didnt see anything( but that was only after i went to the ER new years eve night with spotting from the threatened miscarriage that later was declared official in jan).

Here's to your pregnancy being medically-confirmed and congrats if it is.

(It'd be nice if others didn't misattribute such to 'magical intercessory rituals to supernatural beings' but, doubtless some will anyway).

Again, best of luck to you and you picked a good time, (weather-wise), for being pregnant; June-March.
 

[ro901]

Congratus. apparently it makes you happy. not my problem so that makes mehappy

[Storm61115]

Congratus. apparently it makes you happy. not my problem so that makes mehappy

what ru a hum bug mr. scrooge? babies are a good thing. u were once a baby ..and be thankful ur mother didnt abort u.