being alone for the holidays

[premar16]

so i am kind of alone for the holidays with me and my mentally challenged sister and thats it and I have no idea how make it special and i feel so alone and depresssed

[ajami]

I am sorry that you are alone for holidays.  The best thing to do is maybe volunteer your time to a family and bring them to your home.  Cook them a meal and exchange cards.  Maybe help a family do some christmas shopping.  Or go out to dinner with your sister for thanksgiving.  For Christmas go out and drive around and see some decorations, make it exciting for your mentally challenged sister.  Even though it is just the 2 of you I would still put up some decorations.  I wish and your sister the best for the holidays. 

[tclark15]

Can you think of one thing you and your sister can do together and make it just your special theme for theholiday. I'm not sre what challenges your sister face nor her limitaions.  You should sek the advise of a professonal tohelp you come up with activities.  I don't know how tough this is for youbut look for at least one or two thingsyou can be grateful during this time.  I have lost love ones during this season very recently and good, or bad they are missed and my life is different without them around.  I hope you can feel better and find the vaule in your life and your sister life and  how the two of you can work through this together.  Also rearch out to someone who is less fortuate than you and add value t their lives, FEEL BETTER.  

[alice44]

If you can do something for someone else, you will feel better yourself.  Volunteering, baking for a neighbor, anything that makes you concentrate on someone else.  And remember you always have your FC family 

[aggie49]

you are not alone sweetie you have your sister and friend's and most of all you have god

[ancmetro]

       I will be alone this year...but "I will think about the ones I love and the ones who have loved me".

[jcribb16]

Holidays can definitely be hard, alone, or for some, even in the middle of a group.  I know there are feelings of sadness for our loved ones who are not here with us anymore, yet joyfulness for the ones who are still here.

I'm not sure just how much your sister can do or not, but you are wonderful for looking out for her and I'm glad she has you in her life.  Is she able to go out and eat with you - with no preparation/clean up for you?  Or can someone deliver a meal to the both of you?  Less worry for you and quality time with your sister.

Do you know of anyone around you who may be alone as well?  Perhaps inviting them over to eat, or share desserts, or just chit chat, listening to music, watching a movie at home, drinking hot cocoa, coffee, or tea, etc., would also do a world of good for them and for you and your sister.

Do you and your sister like to watch the parades (like Macy's) on t.v.?  That's always a special thing for many to do together.

I do wish you a sweet and contented Thanksgiving, and please know that many here do care and do hope something will work out for you and your sister.  Maybe we'll cross paths on here sometime during the day tomorrow.  {{{Hugs}}} to you and to your sister.   

[Garydh]

Yes we do know someone that would be alone, and wee have invited him for the Thanksgiving Holliday. Wishing everyone a Great Thanksgiving

[jcribb16]

Yes we do know someone that would be alone, and wee have invited him for the Thanksgiving Holliday. Wishing everyone a Great Thanksgiving

That's wonderful! 
Happy Thanksgiving to you, too! 

[aaagwy]

I'm sorry you feel that way. Well you do feel alone but your sister will be with you maybe you can plan something you both will enjoy doing that way you don't feel so alone. But I do wish you a good holiday season and hope thing good good for you.

[tuscarorarain]

Cooking is a great way to bond with someone whoi is mentally disabled. A lot of people might not think so, but adding the ingrediants and mixing a batch of muffins together seems to bring up a happy feeling in them. I hope this helps. Praying for you. There are shelters and get togethers as well. Maybe you can be a volunteer for Thanksgiving and Christmas.

[brum7814]

*Shrugs*  I just play games or watch movies.  I don't have a problem being alone though.  It doesn't depress me. 

[kapeh12]

A holiday is what you make of it.  If you are thinking of traditions you did in the past and are not able to do them now, create new traditions.  Make paper hats to wear and watch the parade.  Sing silly songs.  Watch a movie or one of the games on TV.  Make Thanksgiving jello or pudding or mac & cheese - or whatever you have on hand and put "Thanksgiving" in front of it to make it special.  Tell your sister you love her and that will make the day special for her, I'd bet.

There is no "right" or "wrong" way to celebrate a holiday - so be creative and have fun with it.  I'm sure your sister will enjoy whatever you decide to do and it will be a good memory.

[Screwedupclick4life337]

Sorry about that but you are not alone god is with you an make it feel special an take your sister out to eat

[premar16]

Thanks everyone !! its so nice for your support my sister has cerabal palsy she is 30 but mentally 8 years old .so sometimes its toughso i have come up with a plan since I am disabled albeit phically i cant driv any where but i think i have it figured out last night we went to her favorite restuarant today we are watching the parade and the charlie brown speicial .I have never made a thanksgiving meal so the caregiver is going to help us make it together then we are going to play alotttttttt of board games then later tongight we are going to have a pajama party party in her room and eat snack and watch movies late into the night while drinking sparkling cider .HOW DO YOU THINK I DID