Smoking

[rmendoza1]

You should tell her that even though you used to smoke before, now you don't, and you do not appreciate having the smoke smell in your car or house. Let her know that you would love to spend time with her, but she has to respect your decision to not have smoking in the car or the house.

[StarlitNirvana]

Your friend should respect that you no longer smoke. Just explain to her that quitting is difficult and you worked hard for it and that you don't want to be around the smoke. She should understand, if she doesn't she may not be someone good to hang out with.

[vvisnich]

I quit smoking 12 years ago.  I had a very good girlfriend who I went to clubs with and had lots of fun.  She moved and just returned to the area  She still smokes (1 - 2 packs a day)  I want to "hang" with her, but how do I tell her not to smoke in my car or house.  I tried one time and her answer was something like "what's the big deal, you used to smoke & I smoked in your
car and house hundreds of times"  I want to see her but how do I get her to understand.  My husband said tell her he refuses smoking in the house but I don't want to say that

Smoking leaves a bad smell in the house. You can either tell your friend you don't want your house to smell like smoke or make up a story. You can say your mother-in-law is allergic to smoke or something like that. It usually helps. Either that or just ask your friend to respect your home, and remind them that things change as people grow up.

[6265AT99]

I quit smoking 12 years ago.  I had a very good girlfriend who I went to clubs with and had lots of fun.  She moved and just returned to the area  She still smokes (1 - 2 packs a day)  I want to "hang" with her, but how do I tell her not to smoke in my car or house.  I tried one time and her answer was something like "what's the big deal, you used to smoke & I smoked in your
car and house hundreds of times"  I want to see her but how do I get her to understand.  My husband said tell her he refuses smoking in the house but I don't want to say that

Being an ex-smoker as well, I can understand where you are coming from but, I really think she should respect the fact that you don't smoke anymore and that you don't want smoking in your car or home.  If she can't do that, maybe it's time to re-evaluate the friendship..

[ljrjess69]

ive smokedc for almost 30 years,,i wish i could quit,,,

[lackeyk]

You should tell her and show her some pictures of people online and show her the outcome of what happen to people who smoke. My great grandma die of cancer from smoking to much.

[lannl]

You will have to be very firm with her. You do not smoke anymore. That is a good thing. You do not want to smell her second hand smoke in your house or your car and thats that.

[CharmedPhoenix]

Congratulations, keep it up.   

If your "friend" can't respect you, your health, your wishes, your property, then she isn't a friend.  You have to be strong and tell her straight out that if she wants to hang out with you she has to do her smoking elsewhere and not in your home or car.  Today not smoking around other people in public places is the law.  You have the right to clean air and healthy lungs.  You didn't go through quitting and restoring your lung health for nothing.  The choice is hers.  She can enjoy the privilege of your company smoke free or she can go elsewhere and smoke.  Like they say - if you love someone let it them go, if they're truly yours they'll come back to you.  If she's truly your friend she'll take you seriously and respect you.

[handllucas]

Let her know that you no longer enjoy the smell of cigarettes, that it took a long time to get it out of the house, car and your clothes and that you do not want to do it again.
You could also tell her that you do not want to be tempted to start again.

[tammypete]

If she is a true friend she should understand that you don't smoke anymore and don't want the smell in your car, house, etc. 

[squirrelgirl44]

It is simple. It is your house and your car. If you don't want her to smoke, she doesn't smoke in YOUR house or YOUR car.

[dwggs]

You need to tell her it is a big deal to you and ask her again to please not smoke in your house or your car.

[nadarama]

I need to stop smoking~ I have asthma

[alaskakaren]

I don't like smoking cigerettes unless I drink...but I partake in smoking...

[dhet212]

She should respect the fact that you dont want smoking in your car and home/just tell her the smoke bothers you and if she still dont get it then she not a real friend no afence

     I am a former smoker. I quit 36 years ago and don't like to be around cigarette smoke. My current friends understand that I don't like smoking in the house or car.