Relationship advice, please

[skrogman]

I don't know if I am really asking for advice.  Just opinions, I guess.  I am in a great relationship and have been for eleven years.  The feelings are very real and still just as alive as ever.  But after eleven years, I just feel we may be "in a rut" as some say.  I guess every couple has there favorite restaurants and favorite places to go, but I am just looking for some new fresh ideas to keep it fun.  After this much time, of course we have our habits, but I just want something new to do together.

Now, here's the hard part of what I am asking.  He has one good eye, so that's a bit of a limitation

Now, here's the easy part of what I am asking.  We are in kind of a small town, but not that far from the big city (which would be Cincinnati), so the best of both worlds is here, but it just feels like after this much time, what new is out there?

And on a Social Security budget too...now, yeah, throw that good little mix together and what do you come up with???

Thanks for any suggestions!

[djohnson43]

We are a one income family and also from a small town before we moved to outside ATL. We are married 21 years and have to find things to do. Because the 19 year old is learning about the civil war and the 18 year old did to they both want us to take them to Charleston to see Sumpter and some of the other sites. I guess with us having kids we don't have much of a chance to get bored because one thing or another is always going on at the school's. Just the other night the 18 year old had her ring ceramony. Where the Junior class (That had fully paid for their rings anyway) were presented with their high school rings. Just as the ceramony was starting it started to hail and every person in the lunchroom where it was being done looked up at the ceiling. One piece of hail even broke through the sky light and hit one of the kids. Not hard but still.
Why don't you two try just a day walking around another town near you that you haven't been before and is maybe an hour away or so. Something different to see and all it really has to cost you is the gas and maybe a meal. Or you could always carry a picnic lunch. Best of luck!

[msmoneybags48]

If you two have been together 11 years, by now you should know what he likes to do and what you share in likes together.  Have you tried spontaneously planning a dinner without him knowing.  Here's my idea; place an order from your and his favorite restaurant, have it delivered and profess your love for each other.  You must make time to do things together; otherwise it will fall apart.  Good luck my dear.

[melissakat01]

I would do a date night that you surprise him with dinner and maybe go to a nice meadow or something and look at the stars together. Just do something you and him have never done.

[diala84]

Sometimes doing a new activity together can create a better bond. Last year me and my husband started taking a martial art together. We really enjoy learning a new skill together, practicing together and it is a good way to keep up our health. We are at our healthiest now that we have an activity we like doing together. This could be anything from hiking, tennis, basketball, gardening, art, sculpting, thrift shopping, etc.. Find a random activity try it out if it doesn't seem a good fit try another activity together. Hopefully you can find an activity that fits into your budget.

[plennis]

In the area I live in they have lots of free things to do.   If you check, they do there too I am sure.  Some of the gardens and museums here have one day a month where the admission is free.  If you like baseball, go see a minor league team play, they have great games, but the costs are a lot less for seats, food parking everything. You are closer to the action and you may see a star in the making.  If there are any cooking schools any where near they offer meals at very inexpensive prices, some only on certain days.  We do dinner every other week with friends, at a different home each time.  We do potluck once a month, the other time the host is in charge, there choice of meals.    Take a class together, cooking, gardening.