she already hates school

[tjshorty]

I think preschool can ruin a kids out look on school.  My grandaughter has been going to school (pre school) since she was 3. Two years of school before she even started kindergarten.  The first few weeks she loved kindergarten, now, its such a hassle to get her up and ready for school.  She used to love the bus ride, now I can't even convince her of that.  What to do?  Any suggestions?

[Forp]

talk to her teacher...talk to her...maybe something's going on  in school or on the bus she wants to avoid.

[countrygirl12]

Why does she not want to ride the bus any more?  If she use to like it but now she doesn't then I would think something happened to make her change her mind.  This may sound stupid but does she have any little people that she plays with?  You know like the little doll houses or farms or stuff like that?  Play with those with her and have the kids go to school.  Might give you an idea of something that may be going on.  Maybe some other kids are being mean to her or making fun of her or excluding her.  Maybe a teacher is being mean to her.  Last year my niece came home (I picked her up) and she was fine and she wanted to tell me something that happened at school.  And I said okay.  She didn't say anything for a minute and I look over and she is crying.  I was done mad.  I am like WHAT!  A teacher had said some really mean things to her and to another kid.  I restrained myself.  I wanted to turn my car around and go back to the school and smack said teacher up the side of her stupid head!  I also think they want to start kids in school too early.  Kids do not need to start going to school when they are 2 years old.

[dreamyxo]

Something might have happened to make her now want to go.  Ask her why she doesn't want to go.

[teenangel]

All I can tell you is ask her what happened for her not to like school and the bus ride to and from school. This could mean that some one could be hurting her or bulling her. So just ask her and hear what she has to say.

[potluck6]

When my daughter was 9 she didn't want to go to school.Came up with stomach problems.Turned out she was being bullied by a girl. Suppose this could happen as early as K. You can ask about her friends at school. Maybe something did happen on the bus.Also remember when I picked her up she fought bad really bad with her younger brother .Kind of a release of her tension.

[Penwoir]

Have you tried finding her a different preschool. My two sons went to a preschool which was recommended to us and it was the best start to their schooling life I could have hoped for. It was fun and friendly but there was learning too - not just learning about arts and crafts but learning about social etiguette and and respecting others. Also, you say she's been going to preschool for two years - does that mean she is 5? This is quite young to be independantly going on the bus. Just my opinion.

[BlackSheepNY]

I think preschool can ruin a kids out look on school.  My grandaughter has been going to school (pre school) since she was 3. Two years of school before she even started kindergarten.  The first few weeks she loved kindergarten, now, its such a hassle to get her up and ready for school.  She used to love the bus ride, now I can't even convince her of that.  What to do?  Any suggestions?

I would talk to her about it.  Without trying to put words in her mouth, ask her if there's something wrong.  Ask her if someone is bothering her in school or on the bus.  I hate to hear these things because that's usually the first thing that comes to my mind.  When my son was just under a couple of years old, he was already very verbal.  I had a new sitter that I used to send him to and after about a WEEK in going to this sitter, he was extremely reluctant to go anymore.  I sat him down and started asking him questions and he finally told me that she wouldn't feed him or give him his milk bottles.  I started to notice that there weren't very many diapers being used, either.  My son told me that this would woman would feed her own kids and never give him anything to eat or drink (even though I was PAYING her for this).  He had to spend 12 hours at this woman's home because I worked a flex shift, and this witch wouldn't even change his diapers.  My husband really had to hold me back because I wanted to confront her and it wouldn't have been pretty for her.  Talk to your granddaughter.  It just doesn't sound right to me.

[vickysue]

My 9 year old niece got to where she did not want to go to school, would not say why, except she was always feeling sick. I livedout of town and when i got in i went by the school to pick her and caught the teacher bulling her in the corner. Needless to say i went ballistic and yank the teacher away from her. Teacher landed on the floor and called the police on me. But all the little kids started telling us what was going on. Well i did not go to jail. Teacher was fired and my lovely niece never had anymore trouble. I should have handled it a little bit better. But when you see red because a child is being abused in a such a way, you might have done the samething.

[loulizlee]

Vickysue, I am SURE I would have done the same thing.

[alice44]

Definitely look into the situation.  Talk with her teacher or other adults she is with.  Remember - you are her best protector.  It is your responsibility to see why she feels that way.

[ancmetro]

    Take her to other community activities where children are present. Then when she goes to school she is more familiar with what is going on...and not be so afraid that she does not want to school.

[sgluckadoo]

I agree with other posters here, sounds like something has happened that made her change her behavior. Be really observant and talk to the teachers and bus driver.

[akee318]

I have to agree too.  More than likely if she went from loving it to not wanting to go, something has happened to her or a friend.  I would keep asking and try to investigate.

[nmsmith]

I know my kindergartener LOVES  going to school. Yes this is her first time in school because I opted NOT to put her in daycare or pre-school. I am glad I did,  I taught her how to read and write and pretty much everything you learn in kindergarten at 2 yrs old.  Now she reads at a first or second grade level and yes she talks ALOT (and has trouble with listening to directions sometimes) but other than that she is extremely well behaved.  She always comes home with  awards and stickers and telling me new things she's learned My point is,  Your concerns are valid because kindergarten should be fun.  You might have to make a change, you might have to go up to the school and sit in the class (or outside the door, which ever they allow) you might have to eat lunch with your child, watch the interaction with classmates at recess, talk to the teachers, talk to the bus driver. Agreed that something might be going on that the parent is unaware of. Could be bullying, lack of friends or acceptance. Or it could just be the child is bored with school. There could also be a learning disability. You will have to do some research and investigating..... the joys of parenthood...