parental relationships

[mollymp]

ok so just out of curiosity im a first time mom my son is going to be two in october and when he was younger probably up until a 3mos ago my son hung on and preferred me to his daddy but now he will tell me to move if his dad and him are playing and i try to play with them. basically he prefers his dad now to me unless he is hurt then he will allow me to hug and kiss on him until it doesn't hurt anymore. this really hurts my feeling even though im pretty sure it shouldn't.. is this normal?

[aswise]

I can only imagine how you must feel... try not to take it too personally though!  My sister and I both went through weird phases with both my parents like that.  As we got older they'd bring it up and neither of us had ANY clue why we did it.  Try not to let it get to you though - my dad gave up playing guitar for 18 years because I would cry when he played.  I hate that he had to give up one of his greatest talents and passions because I told him I didn't like it when I was 2!

[kabconcepts]

It's normal for boys to do that. my sons were the same way. They were attached to my wife early on until they hit about 2 then they wanted to be around me more. But now that seems to be about equal attachment to but of us since they each hit 4 years old.

[mollymp]

thank you so much for the encouragement it was kind of making me feel bad, the fact that he prefered his dad. but now i dont feel so alone 

[pookie07]

I don't know if it is just boys.  My daughter is 2 y.o. and sometimes she prefers her dad to me and the first time she did it I felt so hurt too.  Then I realized that it isn't that she doesn't love me, she just wants to spend time with her dad alone.

[debraleesparks]

 :thumbsup:YES!! It is VERY normal.. He is at that age were he is seeing a difference between you two. And I think he is trying to be like his daddy.

[wrjosh88]

I know I can't really relate to people with abusive parents or non good relationships, but you should respect your parents and try to patch things up no matter what for a variety of different reasons:

1. Your not going to have that relationship with anyone else on the planet, its important you have it though.

2. You don't know what its like to not have a parent, I do, It sucks.

[kathrynh]

Little kids are just tempermental and silly. Don't let it offend you.

[cowgirlx]

Children are so fickle.  By the time he is moved out, he will have switched back and forth so many times, that you will have forgotten all about this.  Eventually it will even out.  Enjoy the little bit of you time.  Read a good book.  Before you know it, he will be right back with you again.

[mollymp]

thanks for all the advice and everything guys, and a good book does sound nice

[Bridget_Elaine]

My son will be 2 in August and he goes through this all the time.  It's one whole week he loves his daddy and comes to mommy for food or whatever, and then the next he just wants mommy.  I've just come to learn that it's a break for me and I love that he loves his daddy so much.  That means my husband is doing his job!!!   

[sheliawheeler]

My daughter is 1 1/2 and she has ALWAYS preferred her father.  Even when I was pregnant she would kick and bounce around when he was around.  Just the sound of his voice makes her excited.  Don't take it personally.  They will grow out of it when they get older and start to "hang on to your apron strings"!

[RewardCash]

Well I'm 13. When I was really young I was always with my mom. When I first learned how to use the phone I'd always call her if I couldn't sleep or got worry (she worked a night shift at times). Now my parents say I stick with my Dad more. If I do it's because I feel like there's a lil "leash" to what I can do and being accepted on it.

[mistym29]

ok so just out of curiosity im a first time mom my son is going to be two in october and when he was younger probably up until a 3mos ago my son hung on and preferred me to his daddy but now he will tell me to move if his dad and him are playing and i try to play with them. basically he prefers his dad now to me unless he is hurt then he will allow me to hug and kiss on him until it doesn't hurt anymore. this really hurts my feeling even though im pretty sure it shouldn't.. is this normal?

it is a faze they go through my daughter did and well still does the same take it as  a blessing that you get a little time to your self it wont be to longbefore he is under your feet again and wants nothing to do with his dad lol just let him run his faze and dont be too hurt i am not sure the situation but if jobs or something has changed and he spends more or less time at home then that is the reason for change it will be fine

[NNH87]

It's just him growing up, you will be his favorite again, soon.