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mnichols4

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« on: January 13, 2016, 10:32:09 am »
Have u ever been in a bad relationship where ur partner beat u over every little thing? What would u do if u was no matter how much u love that person?
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« Reply #1 on: January 13, 2016, 10:51:43 am »
No, I have not and no matter how much I love a person I love me more and I will not let anyone down grade me or beat me up.

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« Reply #2 on: January 13, 2016, 10:56:16 am »
If you are suffering physical or verbal abuse my advice is GET OUT NOW!!!!!!!!!  Nobody is worth being with if they don't respect you!  Good luck!

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« Reply #3 on: January 13, 2016, 11:06:09 am »
If you or you know someone who is in an abusive relationship please consider calling The National Domestic Violence hotline at 1-800-799-SAFE (7233).  Advocates are available 24/7 in over 170 languages. All calls are confidential and anonymous.

Planning for your and (if applicable) your families emotional and physical safety is extremely important. You are not alone and help is available.

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« Reply #4 on: January 13, 2016, 11:18:08 am »
Ditto to all of the responses above!  My daughter was in a relationship with a guy who genuinely was a nice guy anytime we were around in social settings.  Daughter loved him dearly.  They had their fights as all couples do.  One time, he was drunk and they got into a fight and he shoved her down some stairs.  She ended the relationship and never looked back.


Don't become a statistic. Nobody deserves to be abused physically or verbally or emotionally.

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« Reply #5 on: January 13, 2016, 11:56:53 am »
I don't know if you are trying to tell us you are in an abusive relationship.  If you are get your kids and get out now!  There are shelters you can go to, family members, or friends.  But get out, no one deserves to be beat, or even hit, or mentally abused.  If you 'love' him and can't leave, think of your kids.  If you have boys they will grow up thinking this is normal and will become abusers.  If you have girls they will also think it's normal behavior and allow that to happen to them.  Maybe you 'love' him but you must love yourself more not to allow it. 
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« Reply #6 on: January 13, 2016, 01:41:46 pm »
Have u ever been in a bad relationship where ur partner beat u over every little thing? What would u do if u was no matter how much u love that person?

No question about it, leave! Absolutely. No second and third and fourth chances, no rationalizing the behavior -- none of that. That kind of behavior is not to be tolerated. If you're inquiring because you're currently in a relationship like this, I urge you to call the number another poster provided. Being involved with an abusive partner is a waste of time and a danger.

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« Reply #7 on: January 13, 2016, 02:39:43 pm »
Yes. It was the most painful time of my life. But I did not stick around for much abuse. I found a good lawyer and got to heck out. No man lays a hand on me.  Not only did he whack me around good but he pulled a gun on me. I came unglued and threw everything but the kitchen sink at him. He left the  house and I went down and bought  new locks for the doors and put them on. I knew he would be at the bar until closing time so I had time. also put wooden dowels on the windows so he could not  push them open. I did not tell my brother and dad what was going on until I was safely gone. then I told them and when the idiot showed up one day Both my brother and brother-in-law met him out side with shotguns. Never bothered me again.

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« Reply #8 on: January 13, 2016, 03:35:14 pm »
Fortunately no I haven't but my mom has and the only advice I can give to you/ whoever you are asking for is get out and get help. If you allow it to go on it will get worse. It might start out just verbal then it might turn into just slapping and before you know it he is trying to choke you to death. So if you care about yourself/whoever you are talking about tell yourself or them that they deserve better than that and not to fall for his lies , like I love you if he truly loves you he wouldn't hurt you. I'm sorry it was a mistake it won't happen again It will happen again maybe not right away but it will happen again and the next time might be to late for you to get help.
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« Reply #9 on: January 14, 2016, 06:21:38 pm »
Have u ever been in a bad relationship where ur partner beat u over every little thing? What would u do if u was no matter how much u love that person?

Are you serious?  You are asking if anyone is or was beaten by a husband/boyfriend?  Uh no.  And I never would be.  He would only beat me ONE time.  And after the bullet was removed from his brain I highly doubt he would ever BEAT any woman again.

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« Reply #10 on: January 15, 2016, 03:03:47 am »
I think you need to find a new partner!

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« Reply #11 on: January 15, 2016, 05:40:48 am »
Please get help immediately. If you have children, think of them first and leave.
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« Reply #12 on: January 15, 2016, 08:39:22 am »
Praise the Lord that I have never been in that situation.  I believe it would be safe to say that my "partner" wouldn't be breathing long if he did such things to me!  He has to sleep sometimes!
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« Reply #13 on: January 17, 2016, 10:46:43 am »
never have been in a relationship where I was abused.Haven't known anyone either. Easy to say just get out I believe you have to plan for it. Actually I think my grandmother was hurt by an alcoholic husband my grandfather who I never met.She had 7 kids and lived during the depression so I know she couldn't just leave.

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« Reply #14 on: January 18, 2016, 12:39:10 am »
I was in a bad relationship and my husband smashed a lamp over my head the last time so much so, I had to get staples in my head, I was getting ready to leave him and have an apartment lined up for next week to move to and leave, since he hasn't called and he called me tonight. I don't know what to think. He has been going to AA and getting help for drinking but I am scared nothing has changed.

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