How Well Do You Know Your Mate??

[ladybertha49]

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If you ask the average man if he knows his partners favorite color, birth date, favorite food, or what makes her smile, most would not be able to answer all of those questions. But to a woman, if her partner does not know the answers after being with her for some years, it's a problem. I know of husband's that do not even remember the date they got married or do not even know how long they have been married.  That is a major problem for me. If someone is special to me, I want to be able to find out all that I can about that person. I want to know what makes them smile, what makes them sad, what makes them happy etc. and I hope that they would want to do the same for me.  What do you think?

[oldbuddy]

  What a CROCK, I don't remember any of that stuff and I've been married 38 years. As long as I bring home the cash and keep loving her up, I don't thing there will be any problems.

[lynnc35]

I don't know all that stuff, I know he likes to eat all the ice cream and leave the empty container in the freezer, or the chocolate syrup, come to think of it, he always leaves empty containers, I know all of this stuff, but the color of his eyes, , Some of that stuff just gets pushed aside, when you are going about day to day life.

[trujillo33]

Yea i totally agree that if a person is special to u...u would want to know as much information as possible. I know almost everything about my man. However, it seems like ppl in a long relationship forget information about their mate...its just not as important as it use to be when they meant!!

[thanhkle2003]

I think it's important to know each other at first. The first several years of getting to know someone, we build the security and trust for one another. After that, we move on to getting along with each other. Knowing your mate helps eliminate the petty arguments and unnecessary things. I have to say that most of us did not find our soulmate. We went through what we went through and then we end up with the one we feel most suitable. Once we go through enough, we learn to keep our expectations on a realistic level. I had an economic professor once told us (each day in class), "you will be happy if you live below your means". He told us each day and made sure that we knew he implied it with relationships and marriage. He would elaborate as we try to ignore him. He was a very small man, but I think he couldn't live up to his own advise so he never did marry.

[Storm61115]

yes, men should always remember everything about their women. i hate it when guys dont remember something that important. it makes me think im not important. yeah it's 

[hensleyll]

I`m sorry i disagree if you know everything what is going to keep it interesting, my husband and i have been married 6 years howevr we have lived as man and wife for 26 years we got into hum drum everything same old same and about split up ,it was not until we realized it was because we had become comfortable with the same routine you should always have a part of you mysterious that is yours alone not even privy to your mate.must have some semblence of self

[vlsm23]

I'm sorry but I think the difference comes down to this - those who truly love one another, treat each other with respect and honor their mate knows that stuff.  There's a reason 1/2 of marriages end in divorce, and it comes down to communication.  I feel my husband knows those things about me and I definitely know those things about him.  Sure minor things are going to be forgotten, but major celebrations and the color of their eyes !?!?!?! 

[sgluckadoo]

Where to start? Men and women are so different it is amazing they make it work. I am a bit of a man hater. I like my male friends, but when in relationships i end up unhappy. Things like men being slobs, selfish, unemotional, etc... drive me nuts.

[AmyTrivitt]

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If you ask the average man if he knows his partners favorite color, birth date, favorite food, or what makes her smile, most would not be able to answer all of those questions. But to a woman, if her partner does not know the answers after being with her for some years, it's a problem. I know of husband's that do not even remember the date they got married or do not even know how long they have been married.  That is a major problem for me. If someone is special to me, I want to be able to find out all that I can about that person. I want to know what makes them smile, what makes them sad, what makes them happy etc. and I hope that they would want to do the same for me.  What do you think?

My husband would be able to answer all without thinking. Those are the things we learn over time or while we are in dating mode.
To answer the questions about my husband is easy favorite color- black   b/d 10/28   Favortie Food- Pizza what makes him smile,, tons of things, hes team winning a sport, our kids achieving things in life, when im wearing a towel.. LOL The day we got married 10/10
So to answer your question I do not think your accurate.

[GoGoKokiGo]

Remembering things is overrated. Lol. What I mean is he doesn't have to remember every little detail of our lives to make me happy. It would be nice, but I can't even remember all of that stuff. Right now I don't even remember our exact date of marriage (I can give you the exact month) or how many years we've been together (Mostly because when we got together it was like we had been together forever anyway, meant to be almost.). I know for damn sure me not remembering these things isn't because I don't love him. I know he doesn't really have a favorite food. He however loves Chinese food. Lots of things make him happy. If I can't remember everything exactly I won't feel bad if he doesn't either. All in all, as long as he remembers to love me that will be just fine.

[Alphasee]

Mate? Spouse? Best Friend? Partner?
It's best to know nothing about them, that way you don't get anything wrong. lol.

Knowing your spouse isn't about knowing specific facts, its about knowing how they're going to act in certain situations. Their reactions. It just so happens that we know the color blue makes them happier, or a bowl of chicken noodle soup always helps, because we know that feeling of seeing them happy.

[lynnc35]

Well we actually both forgot our 2 year anniversary, thanks to some carshow he had to go to with his brother, no he didn't go. But it got us so upset about it, that we forgot it was our anniversary, and I know if that had not of come up, we would of been better to focus on what was important. All I know about him is he likes his Christian music, pop and rap, he likes collecting cards, he is not easily pulled away from ESPN and he listens to about 50 percent of what I say, but I love him because he is my husband, and that is what matters.

[jan8904]

I think it's more important to know other things. I think it would be great if everyone could remember favorite colors and such, but not everyone has a spectacular memory, even if they really wanted to remember.  I think it's more important to  know how to make them happy and to keep trying in a relationship. I think that this means more to keeping a relationship together and healthy than knowing someone's favorite food.