A Time an Enemy of Yours Was Extra Mean to You

[Cbsteffen]

I know that we all have been harmed, but do you know of a time when someone you have or had never gotten along with was extra mean to you? That happened to me when others who didn’t understand disabilities gave me hard times!

[jwkelly]

what's your boggle ?   Someone was mean to you  ?

[jkhanson]

I know that we all have been harmed, but do you know of a time when someone you have or had never gotten along with was extra mean to you? That happened to me when others who didn’t understand disabilities gave me hard times!

I am sorry that you were treated meanly, Cbsteffen. 
I have worked with people with various disabilities with the age ranging from little children to adults.   
Having a disability does not give other people a green light to be mean or unkind.

[nannycoe1]

I don't want to talk about it

[alice44]

I must be fortunate this has not happened to me.  I have had people who I was close to not respond to continuing or renewing our friendship.  That hurts.

[jwkelly]

Decades ago I was into it with a fat guy who outweighed me by 75-100 pounds,so I dropped him using a full  can of soda,today that could be called a hate crime because fat ppl are considered an ethnicity with their obesity.  Their holy sites are All you can eat buffets.

[baozun]

So in middle school this one boy used to tease all the girls and do all sorts of mean things to them.  He teased me even more than the others because I did not assert myself or fight back.  The grossest thing he did was to launch small objects, tiny legos or erasers, into the air, I can't remember if he was throwing them or using a slingshot, and try to strike girls in their private area.  When the small object landed on my lap, I picked it up and was like "Hmm, what is this?"  All the boys laughed but I was long past giving a damn about whether or not people were laughing at me; they had been laughing at me for two years already so at the time this happened I wasn't even angry, I really did not care.

My advice for dealing with bullies: Close your ears. Close your heart. And try your absolute hardest not to care. Not even a little bit. This worked for me because I am very patient; I knew that eventually the bullies would go tease someone else and someday I would graduate middle school and never see them again.

[countrygirl12]

I know that we all have been harmed, but do you know of a time when someone you have or had never gotten along with was extra mean to you? That happened to me when others who didn’t understand disabilities gave me hard times!

People are jerks. And they are getting worse.

[baozun]

(continuing from my other post)

My strategy worked so well that the boys in middle school actually respected me by the end of the year.  At the time I could not understand why.  Looking back on it I can see that I had a lot of self-control and I guess they were impressed.

I have to say one more thing about the boy who was the biggest bully.  One day he hid my sweater in a place where he knew I wouldn't find it.  I walked through the classroom closet looking for it and of course I didn't find it.  So I sat down at my desk making a sad face, thinking about how I have to tell my mom that I lost my sweater now.  And this is right after she told me not to loose any more stuff.  Suddenly the boy gets up and takes my sweater out from the box he hid it in, puts it on my desk, and gives me this look, an amazed look, like "You are an angel, I've tested you and determined that you are an angel".  I guess he expected me to angrily ask him to give my sweater back, but instead I calmly accepted my loss.  So you can think to yourself, if it helps, that bullies are just testing you.

Much later, in college, I hung out with this other boy.  He loved to joke around and ask the most random questions.  One day he asked me "Why are you an angel?" I shrugged and said "Because you're a devil?"  He thought that was a very cool answer.  So a final piece of advice: when you see people behaving like devils, act like an angel.  You'll stand out in the hellish environment and everyone will know that you're going to heaven.

[baozun]

One more thing I have to say on the subject of bullies and enemies.  When people are saying things that you don't want to hear, most people recommend to cover your ears and say LA LA LA LA LA LA I can't hear you  -  but I have an even better solution.  I use it all the time when my parents are arguing in the other room, the same old stupid argument that I really do not want to overhear.

Choose a song that calms you down, or empowers you, and whenever people are saying things that you don't want to listen to, start singing it.  You can also create a chant to use at these times.  Not only are you drowning out the sound of their annoying voices, you are giving yourself something positive to think about instead.

Think about those bullies... imagine that instead of teasing you they are saying motivational quotes.  For every bad word they use against you, think of a statement that means the opposite, and every time they say that word, think about that positive statement.

[lguzman1]

Thank God, I have never had this kind of problem.