im oh so jealous

[Azanne07]

just found out today that my friend is going out with my ex. I have never gotten over my ex and it kinda hurts. he tried to get ahold of me before i left for college and if he woulda i would have gone and been with him. 

[Azanne07]

I should add that I have 2 children that I love with all my heart and I am to be wed in June. but if i could go back to the summer of 2006. i would have made a better effort to communicate with him besides email

[jwallbank]

Does not sound like a good way to start a marriage!! If you can't get over your ex. It sounds like you made a good choice to go to college, I hope you finished!! Go on with your life and forget about the ex. It sounds like your are starting a new life and be grateful!!

[Azanne07]

i failed outta the first college but managed to get my bachelors degree with a 3.47 gpa

Althou i have to wonder if this my version of cold feet. I have been having the most off the wall dreams about being with other people.

I will admitt I think alot of this come from when i found out he was trying to cheat on me about 18 months ago. i havent had any problems since then

[Storm61115]

i had dreams about being or potentially getting to the point where my ex is going to ask me out again. we never date in the dreams but he's always about to ask me. i think about him every now and then coz we are still friends. i read an old journal of mine yesterday from when i was dating him and he was a total mess. he would *bleep* me off all the time and never really showed he cared enough so i moved on coz he never answered my questions. i found someone a hell of a lot better then him and i plan to keep him.

[tantricia44]

Azanne07 ~ You need to re evaluate you're priorities first. If my friend started dating my ex behind my back, I would drop her like a virus! There's a code where doing something like that to your friend is unforgivable! If you're feeling jealous b/c your friend shacked up w/your ex; you need to rethink about not getting married to someone else. If you can't get the jerk ex out of you mind & heart, you don't need to hurt a man that is willing walk down the alter with you! Why would you want someone that cheated on you & then shacked up with your *bleep* girlfriend?!! What makes you think that he'd go back with you; he's got your *bleep* girlfriend to bang?!! So, marry your fiance, & move on & create a new future. Or go back to where you started with an unfaithful boyfriend that's balling your girlfriend. It's your life make a CHOICE!

[duroz]

Azanne07 ~ You need to re evaluate you're priorities first. If my friend started dating my ex behind my back, I would drop her like a virus! There's a code where doing something like that to your friend is unforgivable! If you're feeling jealous b/c your friend shacked up w/your ex; you need to rethink about not getting married to someone else. If you can't get the jerk ex out of you mind & heart, you don't need to hurt a man that is willing walk down the alter with you! Why would you want someone that cheated on you & then shacked up with your *bleep* girlfriend?!! What makes you think that he'd go back with you; he's got your *bleep* girlfriend to bang?!! So, marry your fiance, & move on & create a new future. Or go back to where you started with an unfaithful boyfriend that's balling your girlfriend. It's your life make a CHOICE!

@ tantricia44, you should stop beating around the bush;  Don't hold back.....just SAY what you really think!!

(Hope you know I'm just busting your chops a little here....I think that you hit the nail directly on the head, and put it into words very well!)
       

[natashaspy]

if you left him for college to start with, maybe you're forgetting that there was a REASON that you went?

[cloudsoup]

everything works itself out, and there's a reason you two
didn't. it's kinda shady that your "friend" is now dating him.
like someone else said... that's kinda in the book of friendship
ethics code! unless she was just an acquaintance.

i have an old flame that the stars almost aligned with once.
a date (that i had held my breath years for!) which never
happened... and it was me who canceled it, because someone
else walked into my life.

i expected to be crushed when i noticed the old flame's wedding
photos on facebook not too long ago, but i was almost relieved
that i didn't have to wonder "what if" anymore.

 

[lbryanwf]

I think we all lament about what might have been to a certain extent. We tend to glorify past situations that may not be worthy of glorification.  But sometimes that can keep us from moving foward. Think about all the reasons you became exes, even if  you beleive it was your fault, and I think you might find you might never have been happy staying there. Understand that fate usually knows what it's doing. Be happy for what have today, and point your eyes forward, never backward. Good luck to you!

[quietpal]

You need to make sure you are completely over the last relationship before you get married. Make sure you are totally honest with your fiance. I agree with others that this is not a good way to start off a marriage. I would question your "friend's" friendship.
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[Barbaralynne]

Think Positive- He is your ex for a reason.Every thing always looks better from afar. Good luck on your marriage.

[queenofnines]

She doesn't sound like a real friend if she'd date your ex without a second thought to your feelings.  But it does depend on how close the two of you are.

[dymondzncurlz810]

Does not sound like a good way to start a marriage!! If you can't get over your ex. It sounds like you made a good choice to go to college, I hope you finished!! Go on with your life and forget about the ex. It sounds like your are starting a new life and be grateful!!

Never could have been said better! Forget about your ex. Obviously they are your ex for a reason!

[luelue]

I am doing pretty good with the surveys, but it takes time.