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skrogman

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If a "friend" tries to phase you out...
« on: May 06, 2013, 04:44:31 pm »
Would you just let the friendship come to its natural end?

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Re: If a "friend" tries to phase you out...
« Reply #1 on: May 06, 2013, 05:08:53 pm »
If it is a TRUE friend then no you don't let it go, you find what the issue is and fix it or at least try to.

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Re: If a "friend" tries to phase you out...
« Reply #2 on: May 06, 2013, 05:34:28 pm »
If your friend is trying to phase you out, there's something going on that isn't a "natural end". When friendships 'dissolve' due to something 'natural' it doesn't take any effort on either person's end. Phasing someone out does take some form of effort. If the friendship means something to you, and you value that person, then try talking to them and see if there's something going on that maybe they're unwilling to talk/confront you about. There could be an outside influence that's behind their actions. See if things can be worked out, that is, if they actually want to continue being friends. If they have no desire to remain friends, you are better off cutting them loose now.

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Re: If a "friend" tries to phase you out...
« Reply #3 on: May 06, 2013, 05:38:49 pm »
Thank you.  I believe that was very solid, very helpful advice.  Outside influence is a very believable thought in this situation.

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Re: If a "friend" tries to phase you out...
« Reply #4 on: May 06, 2013, 05:41:23 pm »
Ask some honest questions....get to the bottom of it before you let a friend go. It could be a simple misunderstanding, that some talk can clear up. :wave:

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Re: If a "friend" tries to phase you out...
« Reply #5 on: May 07, 2013, 09:42:00 am »
Make sure you aren't misunderstanding their actions or bring it to their attention and see if anything changes.  If your intuition is telling you it's time to let the friendship go then that's something to consider too.  If all else fails make a list of good vs. bad things that person has done or if that's too long the pros and cons of that person being in your life.

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Re: If a "friend" tries to phase you out...
« Reply #6 on: May 07, 2013, 10:12:25 am »
Its like that saying.... if you love something let it go, if it comes back its yours, if it doesn't it never was...  also some friendships are better off ending quietly,  amicably and just phasing out. Better then a whole big blow up...

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Re: If a "friend" tries to phase you out...
« Reply #7 on: May 07, 2013, 10:54:15 am »
I guess it depends on where you see the friendship. If you don't see a reason why you're being phased out, then I would suggest a lunch date with them and talk things out. Otherwise, you move into acquaintance zone. I have personally "phased out" a few friends, but because their life was going in a much different direction than mine. Easier to have them in your past than forcing a future.

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Re: If a "friend" tries to phase you out...
« Reply #8 on: May 07, 2013, 12:37:16 pm »
Yes! I would let it come to a natural end! If a person does want to phase you out as their friend, I don't think they were a true friend in the first place!

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Re: If a "friend" tries to phase you out...
« Reply #9 on: May 07, 2013, 01:50:02 pm »
Thank you all.  You have given me much to think about.  I do think that life going in different directions has a lot to do with it.  It's a sad thing, but sometimes it happens.  I just know that when God closes a window, there has to be a reason.  It's just hurtful sometimes when it comes to a friend that you really thought you shared a whole lot in life with, but sometimes ya just gotta say 'stuff' happens.

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Re: If a "friend" tries to phase you out...
« Reply #10 on: May 07, 2013, 02:28:15 pm »
yes if theres problems

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Re: If a "friend" tries to phase you out...
« Reply #11 on: May 07, 2013, 03:06:43 pm »
Yeah if they messed up hard like stealing something from ya or just plain pushing you to the edge of your anger and such.

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Re: If a "friend" tries to phase you out...
« Reply #12 on: May 07, 2013, 04:04:26 pm »
If a "friend " is trying to phase you out I would think there is a reason.  Depending how much you value the friendship you may want to question the person in a quite but honest discussion.

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Re: If a "friend" tries to phase you out...
« Reply #13 on: May 07, 2013, 04:15:28 pm »
I would ask them what the problem is/was.  It might be a silly misunderstand that can be resolved.  Sadly it might also be that you and your friend have grown part, different interest, goals, attitudes, etc.  if it is a close friend I would try to "make it better", but sometimes it's too late.  I remember this poem and try to live by it;

Friendship is like china, so beautiful and rare
Once it's broken, the break can be mended
But the crack is always there.
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Re: If a "friend" tries to phase you out...
« Reply #14 on: May 07, 2013, 07:02:26 pm »
I think that friends sometimes grow apart.  You can still cherish the memories.
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