Supreme Court Ruling: Spanking Children

[vickysue]

I might have spanked my  2 boys once, mainly I would make them sit on the couch and hold hands  for a short time and if that did not work (usually did)  I would  ground them on something and if at night they got into it or did something they should have not done I would  tell them to go to bed and I would tell them the next day what their punishment  would be. The youngest would be up and down all night wanting to know what it was going to be mostly something withheld or grounded on.  The boys and I were very close all the time they were growing up. But they also knew if I said something I meant it in no uncertain terms.

[computermanjd3]

Spare the rod and spoil the child.  Create Frankenstein.

[hawkeye3210]

FYI...It was the Utah Supreme Court. Other states have different laws.

[countrygirl12]

It is really none of the supreme court's business.  There is nothing wrong with spanking kids.  It is not abuse.  There is a difference is spanking a kid and abusing a kid.  If more kids got spanked for some of the stupid stuff they do instead of coddled and told nothing is their fault this country would not be in the horrible shape it is in.

I do respect your opinion but certainly we cannot blame the shape our country is in to children not being spanked.  Somehow I believe that most of our politicians (based on their age) were spanked as children.

Look around you.  There are kids in grade school being arrested.  There are kids in grade school committing horrible crimes as bad as murder.  Yes, that an be blamed on them not being spanked.  If kids are taught right from wrong and taught that they don't always get their way and NO is a part of their vocabulary then things would be different.  The young adults in college that have safe spaces where they retreat with their crayons when they get their feelings hurt are brats that were not spanked as a child.  They are brats that were told nobody can tell you no, nobody can hurt your tender snowflake little feelings, you can always have it your way.  They are going to be in for a real rude awakening when they get out in the real world.

WOW I feel bad for you. Understanding that some of the kids in the world today do not have parents that are present in their lives or don't care about them, plus numerous other factors sexual abuse, drug use in the home is how you get the kids that are searching for attention anywhere they can get it. Maybe you should study more about the kids who are extreme with not obeying and forcing the school to step in. Maybe you could find compassion for others through knowledge.

Maybe you should raise your kids to not be snowflakes and think the world revolves around them.  Obviously I struck a nerve.  My comment must have hit home with you.  You are a complete idiot if you excuse the behavior of these physcos that go in to the schools and shoot every one in their sight.  You say oh well it's not their fault they are just seeking attention.  I somehow feel you will change your tune when it is YOUR kid that is shot in the face by some kid just "seeking attention how ever they can get it". 

Have you been to Walmart lately?  I have seen these bratty little kids as young as 3-4 years old smack their parents because they told them they could not have a toy.  I can tell you straight up if a 3 year old smacks me in the face because I tell him or her they cannot have a toy they will most def get their butt busted.  You don't have to agree with me.  That is fine.  I don't agree with you but I did not feel the need to personally attack you.  You attacked me and now yes I am defending myself!

And calling people names because you get upset over comments of others is only showing how much you truly believe the world revolves around you. I feel bad for you but I will not debate with anyone who lacks knowledge in their responses.

lol.  Yes you will.  You are doing exactly what you are accusing me of doing.  I did not speak to you.  YOU are the one who felt the need to attack me first.  You just can't handle when someone defends themselves.  I never said the world revolved around me nor do I think it does.  That is just the only insult you can hurl. lol at you.  Just because I do not agree with you does not mean I lack knowledge.  I could say the same thing about you.

Read the Bible.  God Himself says to spank your children and to teach them right from wrong. 

Eagerly awaiting your response.  You know you will respond.  You just can't help it!  LOLOLOL

[countrygirl12]

Personally, I would never do it. I don't judge parents that do though.

What I cannot stand is parents that do it in public. Public embarrassment should not be a form of punishment. Besides it is extremely uncomfortable to witness a child being spanked by their parent in public for me.

Then don't watch.  It is not about public embarrassment.  If a kid doesn't want to be spanked in public then don't act like a fool in public.  I have a friend that when his son was younger got mad in a restaurant and pitched a fit and screaming at the table and he spanked him for it.  Basically he swatted him on the leg and he done it right there at the table.  Guess what...he didn't do that again.

No, I don't think they should pull their pants down and wear them out in the middle of a store.  But swatting them on the butt for something is not a big deal not is it "public embarrassment". 

Unlike others on this discussion you seem to get it - it is your choice.  If you don't want to spank your kids then don't do it.  But you do not have the right to judge others, or put them down because they choose a different method.  Abuse is wrong but there is nothing wrong with spanking your kids if they need it.

[countrygirl12]

I know this sounds like an idealized scenario, but if you disciplined your kids right the first time and kept consistent, they wouldn't be doing bad enough things where you would have to use physical violence - and plus, if you do decide to go that route, be prepared for a backlash. 

Backlash?  Really?  You think that every kid that gets a spanking is violent or will try to fight back?  You are correct in if you discipline them right the first time you won't have to do it again.  But most kids do not respond to "reasoning' or "talking to them".  A few maybe do.  Millions of people were spanked as a child and they turned out just fine. They have never been in a fight, never killed any one, never been arrested, or anything else.

[countrygirl12]

Spare the rod and spoil the child.  Create Frankenstein.

Exactly.  When the schools were still allowed to paddle you had well behaved kids that obeyed the rules.  You absolutely never heard of anything close to a school shooting when I was in school.  You didn't have heathens spitting on their teachers or hitting their teachers or kicking their teachers or threatening to KILL their teachers or classmates.  And there were not that many kids who actually got paddled.  You did have order and respect.  Kids went to school and acted like somebody.

But these days you have a bunch of snot nosed brats who are coddled and never told no.  They are taught to believe the world revolves solely around them.  They are right (a few of those people posting on here) and every one else is wrong.  You can't have your own opinion or you are called a bully.  Guess what - not everyone will agree with you.  Another reason we have safe spaces in college where idiots retreat with their crayons and blankies and cry and some head doctor tells them oh it's okay the person who doesn't like blue shirts is just a bully.  He was wearing a grey  shirt and I understand you don't like grey.  Reminds you of the prison walls in your mommy and daddies jail cell.  SO we will ban everyone from wearing GREY on campus.

This country is in some real trouble!

[rghvac69]

The government wants to raise your children and turn them into PC slaves.

[sbenkoski]

I was spanked a few times as a kid, I learned fast all I had to see was the look and i shaped up. My grandpa had a cat of nine tails and just seeing it kept all us in line.

[Gerianne]

I got a spanking or two growing up in the 60's.
It was usually for very good reason and I knew I had done wrong.
My dad's hand was hard enough for me to learn my lesson.
I lived with a family when I was in my 40's.
The main punishment was to sit in the corner for a time.
 

[nannycoe1]

I have very seldom ever spanked any of my kids, I do smack the hands or use timeout

[w3s]

My parents would let me make a fool of myself if I made a scene, or just let me cry it out, honestly I turned out fine

[lmrbean]

We mostly did time outs for our children but a spanking would be given for something serious, such as running out into the street.

[sak4kat]

hitch0403 - couldn't agree with you more.  My sister has memories of hiding under the bed to avoid my mothers violent outbursts.  My brother burried her wooden spoons.  Me and my other sister known as "the babies" musta had it much easier.  I was spanked.  Both my parents... although rarely by Dad.  If there is abuse...someone needs to protect the child.  Abuse and a spanking are 2 very different things though.

[hitch0403]

Thanx Sak....glad you understood Gods view of it...certainly a difference when love is involved.The bible takes the extra step to remind us if we dont discipline how much do we care?

I think we all can make an honest mistake and enable a child to get their way without punishing them and hope they appreciate our love and good-heart.But then again sometimes they take advantage and another measure must be taken.