asking for a tip?

[gaylasue]

I would rather they ask if I want my change than to assume I am tipping the whole amount.  Most of the time I will tell them to keep the change.  But then again, if my bill comes to $20 and I only have a $50, of course I want my change.  I do try to have smaller bills on hand for the tip when we dine out since most of the time I will put the meal on my credit card (racking up cash-back for vacation).

[Harmabe]

Bump

[tjshorty]

If I pay with cash, I often have the waitstaff ask, "do you want change?"  This does not bother me in the least. 

I would give the change and let the person decide to hand me money back. As a delivery driver why would you assume that you get to keep 10 bucks as a tip.

[tjshorty]

What I do if the bill is say $12.00 and I hand them. $20.00 I would say just give me back $3.00.  I figure that way they know they are getting a tip. 

If I have the correct amount and then add the tip I do also.  I don't ever assume that I am going to get a tip much less expect it to be 10 bucks.

[tjshorty]

Yes.  I stopped going to a certain favorite buffet last year because the waitress was standing there trying to be aggressive about getting a tip.  I usually just got carryout there but that day we ate in.  It's a buffet so I leave a few dollars on the rare occasion I eat in but that time was the last straw because I never had someone do that.  It's a freaking buffet you don't even bring the food.  Then she's also going to claim that we didn't pay when we did.  So I'm done with that place. Thinking about it now I should have send a letter explaining why they lost some loyal customers.

See I understand that.  That way it's your decision not the person delivering.

[tjshorty]

I have never had any one ask do you want your change but have had them ask do you need change. I would not think that is asking for a tip. Most wait staff do want a tip. That is how they make their money and they trash talk you if you do not leave a tip or do not leave a large enough tip.  I hate seeing the tip jars every where. You are paid x amount to be a cashier then you took the job for that amount of pay.  Don't expect me to give you a tip to ring my stuff up.

dreamyxo - I doubt they care why you did not come back.  They have other customers so loosing one doesn't matter to them.

That is rude.  I probably would quit going also

[tjshorty]

I think you are dead on. The person providing the service should never assume that change is theirs or that they are entitled to a tip. Better than average service should result in appreciation by way of a tip. Business owners should not get tipped unless they have made an exception in their schedule to meet your needs. One of the jobs that I used to pay for college was a as a waiter at a five star restaurant. I did table side cooking at least once for each (which was above and beyond what most servers would offer) and every table that sat in my section. My tips averaged about twenty four percent and I had return requests covering over thirty percent of the tables I waited on. I never expected wonderful tips but loved taking care of the State's elite and sharing ideas.

I usually tip.  As I have worked as a waitress before.  I pay according to service not according to percentage of the bill.  I always handed all of the persons change back to them, never expecting a tip or to hint or ask for one.

[ghunter]

I am like darkxtsuna, I never pay over when I order for food.  I have the right amount and then I will give you my tip.

[BUBBLEGUMBEN10]

A tip is a tip in any amount given.
If you decide to give them one is your own free will of choice.
They should give you the change and if you want to give them some of it you can.
They need to consider themselves lucky with however much you give them.
They're already getting paid for doing their job.
A tip is just a random bonus once in awhile.
Not everybody tips nor can they always afford to.

[countrygirl12]

A tip is a tip in any amount given.
If you decide to give them one is your own free will of choice.
They should give you the change and if you want to give them some of it you can.
They need to consider themselves lucky with however much you give them.
They're already getting paid for doing their job.
A tip is just a random bonus once in awhile.
Not everybody tips nor can they always afford to.

If you are a waitress you are paid $2.17 an hour. So no a tip is not a random bonus. If you cannot afford to tip then you do not need to go eat in a sit down restaurant. I do not agree with expecting 20% of the total of the bill but I can see both sides of this.

[cathy37]

I think it is rude to assume I'm going to give you a tip.  If I go to a restaurant and get very poor service, their tip will reflect the type of service I received.  I know they get paid very little and depend on tips, so they should be very attentive so they will get the good tip.

[nmbrown863]

I was a server for many years and I never said "Did you need change"or something similar to that. I do think it comes off as kind of rude.

[linderlizzie]

I'm with those who say wait until you make the change. If you deserve a tip, you'll get one. You don't have to fish for it.

And while we're on the subject, how do you feel about the kids who just hand you your money back without saying how much it is at all? I love it when people count my change backwards to me. Then you're sure that you're getting the right amount back. It takes some practice, but it's worth the trouble, IMO. If I can learn to do it, anyone can. 

 

[countrygirl12]

I was a server for many years and I never said "Did you need change"or something similar to that. I do think it comes off as kind of rude.

Things have also changed.  10 years ago you did not pay at the table.  You paid at a register. So they ask "do you need change" because they need to know if they need to come back to the table I guess.  I never thought of that as asking for a tip nor being rude.  Rude also seems to be an overly misused word. smh  People are not rude because you do not like the way they say something.  THEY are doing what they are trained to do.

And a lot of people do not know but if you pay with a card most times a 10% tip is auto added to your bill.  In my opinion THAT is rude.  But people who work there and get the money think it is great.  I don't like seeing the TIP jars every where.  We had a big discussion about that on here a few years ago.  And the majority seemed to think the jars were fine.  Many smarting off just ignore them if you do not like them.  I am waiting on Walmart cashiers to put a TIP jar by their register. lol

[oldbuddy]

What turns me off is when I go up to the counter and order from a menu board so I can go back and pick up my food when it's ready, but if I pay with a card there is a button to press for 15%, 25% or 30% tip. I have not even seen any food yet!