Birthday Party Anxiety

[Mizzkizz7]

I don't know if anyone else have ever experienced this before, but I need someone to let me know.  When my son turned one years old, I gave him a birthday party with immediate family only and 2 or 3 friends. His dad side of the family I didn't communicate with.

To make a long story short, Due to my social anxiety(social phobia) I've never wrote up a long list of names and thrown my son a large birthday party. This is due to fear of rejection, me being introverted, shy, and of course being a host. 

[Work2hard]

Sorry you should get out of your own head. If you just gave a party with or without invites you'll have the best of time with your son. He would remember your party for years. Really I too get stuck in my own head not realizing that people that loves you really loves the mention. 

[alina6]

The past is the past - let it go. Sounds like your son is doing wonderful and not worrying about anything.

[linderlizzie]

I had parties for all my kids. I don't think it made a hill of beans difference in how they grew up.

Sounds to me like you raised your son the best way you knew how and he loves you.

If that's the extent of the problem your issues have caused, it sounds like you're coping well.

Don't worry. Be happy.

[Donnamarg323]

I don't know if anyone else have ever experienced this before, but I need someone to let me know.  When my son turned one years old, (he's 21 now) I gave him a birthday party with immediate family only and 2 or 3 friends. His dad side of the family I didn't communicate with.

To make a long story short, Due to my social anxiety(social phobia) I've never wrote up a long list of names and thrown my son a large birthday party. This is due to fear of rejection, me being introverted, shy, and of course being a host. of course people would wonder, what about your friends helping you? My son's dad away asked me what I was going to do, instead of us coming together and figuring it out. My son's friends parents always wondered why their kids never got an invitation.. anyways My grown son is the biggest social butterfly ever and he seems to not care, he hasn't even been affected by this.

What i REALLY wanna know is how long will it be before you LOCK this topic?

[makeblessed]

Your son seems to have turned out fine, so hopefully you can leave the pass behind and gradually overcome your anxiety; good luck.

[Mizzkizz7]

I don't know if anyone else have ever experienced this before, but I need someone to let me know.  When my son turned one years old, (he's 21 now) I gave him a birthday party with immediate family only and 2 or 3 friends. His dad side of the family I didn't communicate with.

To make a long story short, Due to my social anxiety(social phobia) I've never wrote up a long list of names and thrown my son a large birthday party. This is due to fear of rejection, me being introverted, shy, and of course being a host. of course people would wonder, what about your friends helping you? My son's dad away asked me what I was going to do, instead of us coming together and figuring it out. My son's friends parents always wondered why their kids never got an invitation.. anyways My grown son is the biggest social butterfly ever and he seems to not care, he hasn't even been affected by this.

What i REALLY wanna know is how long will it be before you LOCK this topic?

I actually MIGHT LOCK this topic TONIGHT!!! :-)

[Mizzkizz7]

Your son seems to have turned out fine, so hopefully you can leave the pass behind and gradually overcome your anxiety; good luck.

Thanks for your input

[Mizzkizz7]

Your son seems to have turned out fine, so hopefully you can leave the pass behind and gradually overcome your anxiety; good luck.

Thankyou very much

[Donnamarg323]

I don't know if anyone else have ever experienced this before, but I need someone to let me know.  When my son turned one years old, (he's 21 now) I gave him a birthday party with immediate family only and 2 or 3 friends. His dad side of the family I didn't communicate with.

To make a long story short, Due to my social anxiety(social phobia) I've never wrote up a long list of names and thrown my son a large birthday party. This is due to fear of rejection, me being introverted, shy, and of course being a host. of course people would wonder, what about your friends helping you? My son's dad away asked me what I was going to do, instead of us coming together and figuring it out. My son's friends parents always wondered why their kids never got an invitation.. anyways My grown son is the biggest social butterfly ever and he seems to not care, he hasn't even been affected by this.

What i REALLY wanna know is how long will it be before you LOCK this topic?

I actually MIGHT LOCK this topic TONIGHT!!! :-)

Sure as the sun crosses the sky UR right on time...LOL!

[Mizzkizz7]

I will continue to post topics on whatever I feel like, whether it sounds stupid to others, it means a lot to me. Thanks to all the mature people on the thread who responds with respect. If you don't like a topic, stop responding. Simple as that.

[dreamyxo]

Why are you dwelling on something that happened 20 years ago?  If you seriously loose sleep at night over this you probably could use some professional help.

[bremer51]

You have regrets, as we all do.  Don't let them drag you down.  Your son probably hasn't suffered any negative repercussions from small birthday celebrations. Be proud of your son and your role in raising him.

[singletonb]

I have been one to never be controlled by the opinion of others.  I respect the fact that they have a right to their opinions but work hard to not let it affect how I live my life.  I have tried to raise my kids the same way so that they are not fully affected by the negativity of others.

[countrygirl12]

I don't know if anyone else have ever experienced this before, but I need someone to let me know.  When my son turned one years old, (he's 21 now) I gave him a birthday party with immediate family only and 2 or 3 friends. His dad side of the family I didn't communicate with.

To make a long story short, Due to my social anxiety(social phobia) I've never wrote up a long list of names and thrown my son a large birthday party. This is due to fear of rejection, me being introverted, shy, and of course being a host. of course people would wonder, what about your friends helping you? My son's dad away asked me what I was going to do, instead of us coming together and figuring it out. My son's friends parents always wondered why their kids never got an invitation.. anyways My grown son is the biggest social butterfly ever and he seems to not care, he hasn't even been affected by this.

I would rather have a smaller gathering with immediate family or friends. I don't get the huge parties. My cousin always has mega huge parties for her kids with 35-40 people. Or more. smh