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Off-Topic / Re: How long should someone date until getting engaged?

« on: June 28, 2012, 06:29:35 pm »Message ID: 562036

Personally, I think it should be based totally on what you think is long enough or too long, or whatever. If you really love someone it doesn't really make a difference. However, if you are with someone and you think that they should have proposed to you by now then you should talk to them about it. Marriage shouldn't be something that you are afraid of talking about with the person you love, and if they are scared or uneasy, don't be mad, that is a normal reaction for some people to feel. My husband proposed to me after 3 months of dating, and I was terrified. I said yes, then no, then I don't know, then yes again. I had been married before, and I didn't want to rush into anything. I am happy that I did though. We get along great, and I can talk to him about anything. We don't have any secrets between us, and we don't hide anything that we are thinking or feeling from each other. We both understand that it is easier to just say what you feel even if it hurts the other person for a second, instead of holding it in and causing issues later. The amount of time that you should wait is the amount of time that is comfortable for you.  

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Off-Topic / Re: migranes

« on: June 28, 2012, 06:13:10 pm »Message ID: 562028

I get terrible migraines and once they start I find that it is easier to just go ahead and go to the doctor. I know going is terrible, but I know the terrible pain that migraines cause, and sometimes you just have to go. There are tons of things that cause migraines and tons of different things that can help with them. I once had a doctor tell me to quit my job and leave my husband because I couldn't get the migraines under control. I had thought he was crazy, but after years and having time to look back at the situation, I think he might have been on to something. Also, it is important to find a doctor who is really committed to helping you cure your migraines. A quick fix or them giving you something just to keep you quite is never going to get to the bottom of the issue. There was a woman who had been suffering from terrible migraines for a very long time, and the doctors would just say that it was another migraine and send her home. Luckily she finally found a doctor who really cared, and he had heard of a guy who had been doing research on a correlation between migraines and heart problems. He sent her to see him, and it turned out that she had a tiny hole in her heart that was causing her blood pressure to go haywire, and the other doctors had never seen it. She had surgery to close the hole and never had a migraine again. I think that migraines are a way for your body to tell you that there is something wrong and should really be paid attention to.