Disagreements with Discipline

[BK_Adores_Chase]

it's really frustrating when my fiance will threaten our child (2 1/2) with a punishment when I know darn well he won't follow through with it - I feel like if you say you are going to tell your child he will be punished, you should follow through or they think it's a joke.  He also raises his voice a lot to him, half the time when it is completely unnecessary.  And the other day he threatened all sorts of things would happen if our child didn't go potty in the toilet?  HELLO we haven't even begun to introduce him to it, and you want to one day decide he better know when to go or else get punished?  NO, that's not how it works.  Grow up.  He was yelling at him for trying to talk to us when him and I were trying to have a conversation - I feel like our son isn't old enough to know any better and that it would only take 30 seconds to stop our conversation to see what he wants and tell him he needs to wait until we are done talking.  This is mostly me venting.

[g0ku4life]

I don't have children, but did he read any of the parenting books at all? Sounds like he is angry and stressed over something else and is taking out on him and you.

[BK_Adores_Chase]

Well the day this happened we had just found out our offer on a house was accepted (good) but someone broke into it (bad) - and I know buying your first house can be VERY stressful, but still - if your a parent I think it's important to be able to separate your feelings and be fair to the child.  I (luckily) have always been amazing at handling stress, it's one of my favorite personality traits and probably the most important (keeps me sane and allows me to do everything I do with ease).

[freepcmoney]

it's really frustrating when my fiance will threaten our child (2 1/2) with a punishment when I know darn well he won't follow through with it - I feel like if you say you are going to tell your child he will be punished, you should follow through or they think it's a joke.  He also raises his voice a lot to him, half the time when it is completely unnecessary.  And the other day he threatened all sorts of things would happen if our child didn't go potty in the toilet?  HELLO we haven't even begun to introduce him to it, and you want to one day decide he better know when to go or else get punished?  NO, that's not how it works.  Grow up.  He was yelling at him for trying to talk to us when him and I were trying to have a conversation - I feel like our son isn't old enough to know any better and that it would only take 30 seconds to stop our conversation to see what he wants and tell him he needs to wait until we are done talking.  This is mostly me venting.

WHY such a poor choice in a Fiance?? You mean that you really are going to marry this man?? God help you and your child. Oh yeah, when are you doing to start potty training?? When he is messing his pants in school??

[makedoughonline]

"fiance" and "our child" don't seem to go together. Should you have a husband before you have a child? Oh, sorry. I'm a old shoal.

[Finally360]

Wow, I would have a talk with fiance about how he is treating the child.  The child is only 2 so he needs to be careful with his tone and how he talks to the child because this can damage the child.  On the flip side, discipline is necessary because children are smart these days but before discipline they must be taught.  every child learns to potty at their own pace so yeling at the child about the potty is definitely not necessary.
Yeah I thinkyou should definitely have a long talk with him because its not fair to the child and if he doesnt get a hold of his parenting skills now, it will get worse as the child grows older and the child may grow up with anger issues.

[mommagoes]

it could be the opposite and you could be in the situation where he does not want to be involved in the disciplingin at all. i think one of the worst mistakes that parents make is not being on the same page when it comes to parenting. it can be very confusing for a child when mommy wants things doen one way and daddy another. its very important to make a plan and stick to it, and not just for the comfort of the child, but also to add to the stability of the parents' relationship

[BK_Adores_Chase]

"fiance" and "our child" don't seem to go together. Should you have a husband before you have a child? Oh, sorry. I'm a old shoal.

Well he wasn't planned, I just got pregnant - would you prefer I got an abortion?