Do you really forgive?

[beatsdrop]

I hold grudges, but I'm really really trying my hardest to learn how to forgive. It's hard to forget what others have done to you.

[vmcutshall]

I forgive and try to forget, but sometimes something will happen that brings it all back up. and I have to try to forget again,

[constance312003]

It is hard to forgive someone but it is so necessary in order to survive.

[champak97]

Some people are not worthy of our time. Thinking about all the bad stuff that happened to us because of them, only causes stress, headaches, frustration, and anger, which is detrimental to our health in the long run. So, the best thing to do, is just forget about them, and move on in life.

[PGS28]

We're suppose to forgive in order to be forgiven (of our sins) but that's easier said than done.  I'll forgive to the point where I'll start back talking to that person on a friendly basis (very scarcely, depending on what was done) but I have a hard time forgetting, which may not be a bad thing- the saying goes when someone shows you who they are, believe them and also fool me once shame on you, fool me twice....

[delladidit]

...we must learn to forgive.  it is ok to fake it until you make it.
...forgetting is another matter.  forgetting would open us up to the same treatment we had to forgive someone for.  so don't forget.  learn from it and don't let anyone repeat it.
...peace be with you. 

[bigfoot951]

It depends on the situation.  I don't forgive for absolutely everything.  In situations where I was done wrong by someone I might forgive them but I will not forget.

[ricdsm]

I think that forgiveness is an act of the will.  That means that a person could still feel hurt or sad by the ofence.  What it does mean is that if I say I forgive someone I should act (make choices) towards them as if they didn't do the offence.  That is my opinion.

[de3ik]

I do forgive, as it is best for my health not to carry that heavy burden and God commands us to do so. But there are some things I can never forget and truthfully don't to keep in mind to protect myself from future hurt or pain. There are some people I may not be able to have an association with because of the past, but I can relaease the burdens of grief they left me with just as I expect others to forgive me if I am wrong. I try not to do things wrong, but at least there is forgiveness when things happen. We should all forgive, but of course some things we will never forget.

[kcoleman2]

I'm a person that can forgive. Not easily but over time i can lean to forgive people. One thing that i will not do is forget. I've been hurt and scorned and i have forgiven those that did it to me. I will never forget what they did to me but i believe time heals all wounds!

[cloudsoup]

if someone is brave enough to admit that they've
done wrong and will apologize for their wrong doing,
i think they deserve forgiveness. if they want
to be in your life, they will find a way to be.

but you don't deserve my forgiveness just because some
time has passed. if you've hurt me, i'm the type of person
who will be bruised for a long, long time... or until you make
it right.

[mgint]

most of the time but sometimes it can be tough.

[devideddi]

If it were just me, then I would say no, no way.  On my own I could not forgive and don't even want to try!
But with Jesus things are different.  Its almost like he does it for me.  If I can't forgive other people how can
I expect him to forgive me?   

[dcrotteau]

I forgive, it's hard sometimes, but forgiving someone is more about you than the other person.  When you forgive someone you're letting yousrelf off the hook, so to speak,.  It doesn't mean that you're saying it's ok what someone did or said, it means you're allowing yourself to move on and not keep negative feelings bottled up, which leads to big time stress, which leads to illness.  Believe me I know what I'm talking about.  So, for me it's just easier to forgive and move on and also, I've probably learned something.   

[VickieHigh]

We all say we forgive people, but sometimes after we forgive we see that person and think about the wrongs they did and may still feel a little mad or hurt by them. So did you really forgive or did you forgive but......

To forgive and forget is tricky sometimes.  I forgive everyone, however forget can be hard.  After being married for 11 years my husband went out of town to work and he cheated on me.  Actually he moved in with the woman, paid her utilities and paid for her kids to go to day care even though the woman didn't work and didn't have need of daycare.  Anyway, I found out when my husband decided to end the relationship and the woman called me because she wanted to tell me before my husband could.  He apologized to me and asked me to forgive him.  I told him that I would and we have continued our marriage.  Most days it doesn't cross my mind what he did, however there are other days he will say something or do something that brings it all back in my memory.  I still cry from time to time because it is still rather fresh, it's been about 8 months since.  I kept it from my kids and our families so they don't think less of him.  I hope that over time it will become easier to deal with and I won't remember it as frequently.