What Do You Think Of Never Having Kids?

[luvh8tragedy87]

When I was younger I was sure I wanted kids. Now I've been leaning towards not having them. I'm still leaving the door open tough, I could change my mind. If I were to have kids I'd wait until I was in my 30's. Which isn't too far away anymore. At least right now I think it would be selfish of me to have them. I know how I am and I enjoy doing what I want to right now.

[bowrunner]

Anyone that doesn't want kids best not have any.  Kids are a very long tiring job so you need to want them first.

[gaylasue]

There is no problem with that.  I chose to have one child.  I've advised my daughter not to have any.  The world is such a sick place to bring a child in to now days and it is only going to get worse.

[monnee]

Then you'll probably be alone without a family in your senior years, but your still young, so enjoy your youth, and your mind about of having kids will change as you get older.

[patti4me]

I think having children is an individual decision; not everyone is cut out to be a parent.  Some people have no business having children as they are unable to take care of them financially, emotionally or otherwise.  I waited till I was 30 to have my first child and I sure don't regret waiting.  They are a very big responsibility and if you're not mature enough in your 20's or you simply don't want children then I would advise waiting and reassessing later in life.  We had our last child at 40 and I don't advise waiting that long lol.  Those sleepless nights are a lot harder at 40 than they were at 30 lol!

[cathy37]

I think this is a personal choice and nobody should say anything if you decide not to have kids.  For me, it was a given.  I love kids and regret sometimes that I only had one.

[CharmedPhoenix]

Then you'll probably be alone without a family in your senior years, but your still young, so enjoy your youth, and your mind about of having kids will change as you get older.

I was raised with the expectation that I'd get married and have kids.  I woke up in my 20's and decided I not only didn't want kids, I don't want to deal with kids.  Now I'm in my 50's and I don't regret it one little bit.  Having kids (or grandkids) aren't for everyone and people who decide not to have kids won't necessarily change their minds when they get older.

There are lots of ways to do things for kids without having them.  Donate school supplies, support organizations, donate coats or Christmas presents, etc.

[Skyisbluetoday]

It's a personal choice to want them or not, having them unexpected would be the twist!

[thtrngng]

I cannot imagine how my life would be like without any children. My children molded me into the person I am today. A loving, caring, responsible, dependable, understanding person.

[blondie71]

I think it up to each individual and couples.  I have one grown son but I wanted to have a child with my husband and we have to been able to have one.  My son was an xboyfriend and so we have been married this October for 14 years and we have not been able to get pregnant and have a child and I am going to be 44 and he is going to be 41 so I think its getting pretty close to say that we should stop trying.

[ricdsm]

My wife and I couldn't have our own kids so we adopted.  Our son is now 17 and he is the joy of our lives.  We were READY for him and he has brought such joy and blessing to our lives.

[lhz123]

I'm 40 years old and don't have kids but if God give me a chance to have one,  I am more willing and love to experience motherhood.

[camellia0]

I think being a parent is a wonder experience for  all of us (even if we adopt). If you're 21, no, you shouldn't have a child in your 20's. This is time for you and your significant other to see the world, find a job, finish school and most importantly save for your future. By mid 30's to 40, you will probably be sound enough to want to have atleast 1 child. Definitely think about it. You don't want to rush into anything, but definitely when you get older you will probably change your mind.

[braggin]

I think it's perfectly OK to not want kids and that definitely anybody who doesn't want them shouldn't have them. They are an enormous time and emotional investment and you have to be perfectly behind the idea of having kids if you are to raise them properly. I have one daughter who doesn't want kids and one who just had a child and I fully support both girls' decisions.

[BMaston12]

I am only 21 so this is completely hypothetical lol, unless I god forbid had a baby with a girl haha.  But do you think being a parent is a needed thing and/or that society kind of pushes that its "so great to have them" on us.  Some people call it selfish but if wanting to travel, enjoy my present family and friends and being an uncle, experience things with my partner that having kids sometimes inhibits...then call me selfish!  haha I have pretty much decided I don't want them in my 20's but I'll reassess in my 30s  . Or even if they are not biological I can adopt later in life!  I just don't like when people act like having kids is right for EVERYBODY or the be all end all of life, because I have nothing against having them it just isn't for me! 

I never had children. Now that my husband is dead, I sometimes wonder what it would be like to have grown children or grand children to share my life with. But I can say that I enjoyed the life I had with my hubby of 39 years. So many things we did that we could not have done with children. That is a decision you have to make for yourself. BMaston12