What Do You Think Of Never Having Kids?

[killers2]

I am only 21 so this is completely hypothetical lol, unless I god forbid had a baby with a girl haha.  But do you think being a parent is a needed thing and/or that society kind of pushes that its "so great to have them" on us.  Some people call it selfish but if wanting to travel, enjoy my present family and friends and being an uncle, experience things with my partner that having kids sometimes inhibits...then call me selfish!  haha I have pretty much decided I don't want them in my 20's but I'll reassess in my 30s  . Or even if they are not biological I can adopt later in life!  I just don't like when people act like having kids is right for EVERYBODY or the be all end all of life, because I have nothing against having them it just isn't for me! 

[kewl4reals]

I am only 21 so this is completely hypothetical lol, unless I god forbid had a baby with a girl haha.  But do you think being a parent is a needed thing and/or that society kind of pushes that its "so great to have them" on us.  Some people call it selfish but if wanting to travel, enjoy my present family and friends and being an uncle, experience things with my partner that having kids sometimes inhibits...then call me selfish!  haha I have pretty much decided I don't want them in my 20's but I'll reassess in my 30s  . Or even if they are not biological I can adopt later in life!  I just don't like when people act like having kids is right for EVERYBODY or the be all end all of life, because I have nothing against having them it just isn't for me! 

                     i think that idea  is okay    overpopulation is a pro8lem

[renee10]

I don't think it is a problem. It is a personal choice not to want kids. I'm 33 and have no plans to have children.

[jenniferhoder]

Having kids is a major commitment. There is nothing wrong I you don't want them. What would be wrong ha having then when you know you don't and not being the parent you SHOULD be! Live your life now and if you decide later to have them, then it's your choice!!!

[jkhanson]

Having children is a very personal choice.  No one should feel pressured to have children "to fit in" with society.

I think it is good that you are thinking about this; evaluating what you want in your life.  At 21, you have wisdom to see that children at this age would not be what you want.  You have a lot of years ahead of you to have children.

For now, go ahead and  "travel, enjoy my present family and friends and being an uncle, experience things with my partner that having kids sometimes inhibits..."    because once you have children, your life definitely changes.

do not feel selfish or guilty!

[countrygirl12]

It's up to each person if they want kids.  I don't think society pushes it on people either. 

[Nancy5]

If you don't want kids I don't think there is anything wrong with that.  It is a very personal choice and being a parent isn't for everyone.  It's better to not have children, then to have them and resent them.

[ktheodos]

I think less people are getting married and having kids which is okay, no one should feel pressured to do so (though unfortunately people are)...and more people are waiting until later in life...part of the reasons I think are: financial, living longer, wanting to do more while younger before having responsibility, less maturity, and the ability to adopt (which is wonderful!)

[oldbuddy]

Just remember, if you don't have any kids, there is a good chance you won't have any grandkids and you would be missing a lot.

[articx]

I'm in my 30s, I don't have any kids, and don't want any. As for that thing about being selfish, I've heard of it and think it's ridiculous.

[ghunter]

Too Late, I have two children.

[devideddi]

I think it is up to the individual person.  There is nothing wrong with having children or not having children.
I see people every day that have children and are not good parents at all.  That's sad.  I also bellieve it is unselfish to adopt children.  I personally am a parent of three and love being a parent.

[Penwoir]

When I was a young girl, I never thought I'd have kids. When I reached my twenties I didn't want any kids - ever! I considered children selfish, greedy and dirty! (Sorry). As I grew into my late twenties and figured it would be silly to commit to never having children so I decided to keep my options open - never say never! Then when I reached my early thirties I decided it might be nice to, one day, consider the possibility of having children. I recalled all the thoughts I use to have about children being selfish and greedy, but I realized that children are a project that you need to work at. Perhaps I was willing. In my late thirties I realized I wouldn't have the opportunity to have children for much longer so I decided to have children. I got two boys and they are now 8 and 10. Now I realize I was never living on Planet Penwoir! Having children is a real blessing and a project not to be entered into lightly. They take a lot of work, a lot of patience and commitment. But, when you are ready, if you become ready, they are the best thing that you could ever be blessed with.

[lvstephanie]

I think that it is a very personal decision that the both of you must make... I think too often people (esp. women) hurry to marry so that they can have children, but then they mature and realize that their partner wasn't really enthused about kids, or even that the marriage was rushed into too quickly. And the reason why I say more women do this is that they feel the pressure of their biological clock so want to have kids earlier in life.

[lynnjames]

I think a person lifestyle has a lot to do with their decision to have children. If you are a busy on-the go person with an active social life, it would probably be best to delay having children because kids need  love and attention, they need to feel that they are important in the life of their parent and if a parent is too involved to be attentive to a child, maybe they should not have them. I think having kids is great. I am blessed to have children and they are very supportive in my old age, (I do not mean financially, but, if I needed that I feel, actually, I know they would be supportive in that way also) they call, text or come by daily, always include us in their life, and make sure we are not lonely. We gave our kids plenty of attention and now they are giving us plenty of attention.