Heart broken

[cateyes1]

My daughter who is 38 wont talk to me and hasn't for a while now, I miss her and my 3 Grandkids. When ever I send her an email she never writes back to me. Should I just give up and let her contact me when she's ready? I sign my emails ....Mom, I love you...please give me some advice !

[crisstar]

Just keep the door open - it's up to her if she chooses to walk through it or not. One way to keep the door open is to send cards on birthdays, holidays, etc.. Send an email if you wish.

If you do something spectacular and you want to share - go on vacation, get a new hair-do, etc.. you can send pics.

What you don't want to do is come off as desperate, begging, or pleading because some believe it or not get off on that.

I know it probably tears you up inside, but I suggest you just go on with your life but at least try to keep positive communication going even if you're not getting a response back.

[debidoo]

Gosh such a difficult situation and sad.  I have had no contact with my brother or sister since our mom passed in 2010 all over greed.  I might be the wrong person because of this to give advice.  I would have to know what caused the rift between you guys.  I guess I would say go back to that and try to see if you can resolve what caused the problem in the first place.  I wish your daughter would realize how short life is and that her children need a grandmother.  I'll pray for you and that things will fall in place.  I am sorry for your sad situation.

[Nancy5]

I am so very sorry for your situation.  It's hard to give an answer because it depends on what happened to cause the problem.  I would tell her you love her and your grandchildren and would love to be back in their lives, and then stop correspondence.  Send birthday cards, holiday cards, but stop the constant emails etc.  she is receiving them and for what ever reason does not want to respond to them.  Like the last person said, I wouldn't beg.  I know it hurts and tears your heart out, but bottom line, it's her decision and you can't make someone like, love, or want you.  Good luck and I pray you resolve this.

[6265AT99]

Don't stop communicating because one day she will realize she only has one mother and when that day comes, I sure hope and pray for you both it won't be too late.

[natashaspy]

I would keep them door open for the daughter...but not beg for her to talk to you.  maybe just every once in a while send a note reminding her that you're there and love her and are ready to talk when she is.  if you seem desperate then you leave the way open to be taken advantage of.

[sherryfan]

If you call her directly, will she answer the phone? Try to have some party, soon Mother's Day will be here,  plan to have a nice dinner, anything can be solve if keep communicating.

[cateyes1]

If you call her directly, will she answer the phone? Try to have some party, soon Mother's Day will be here,  plan to have a nice dinner, anything can be solve if keep communicating.

Hi Sherry, no she wont answer the phone either. Last Mothers day came and gone and NOTHING ...She did something she shouldn't have and I let her husband know about it. I should have stayed loyal to her and not say anything to her husband. She claims that she is not mad at me for that yet she still wont talk to me since. She doesn't want to own up to her part. I just feel like i'm an awful mother now for betraying her secret. I cant seem to forgive myself and I sometimes don't even want to be here anymore ...I miss her and the kids.

[sherryinutah]

Send her positive, loving thoughts and let her come to you. Sometimes we all take a vacation from certain family members.

[hitch0403]

Cateyes,this is hard to judge because you arent saying what you did.Never the less even the worst sins committed have been forgiven if one is truly repentant.

You sound like you are and hopefully your daughter will forgive you because she might need it someday too.Bow your head and ask God for peace and calmness and to do the right thing.

I wish you well.The family is very trying today and i can assure you many are going thru stuff like this.The definition of love starts off,that it is long-suffering and kind and doesnt keep account of the injurys.We are human and all sinful creatures.Knowing that helps us understand us and others.

[Skyisbluetoday]

I would try something else beside's just an email. She may or may not have that email anymore. Just let her know how much you care. Send a snail mail, a phone call. Let her know your there if she need's you, she might one day!

[potluck6]

My sister in law has the same problem with her son.not sure what happened but they haven't talked in a year or more.Know she doesn't like her daughter in law to much.We told her to keep calling and try to work it out. I know my mother used to get on my nerves sometimes but I always talked  to her .Talk out problems if you can  and good luck.

[aggie49]

all you can do is give it time and keep trying i was in your place with my brother who i have not seen in over 40 years and we had not talked for over 35 years but i kept writing emails phone calls and now we are at least talking so keep the faith your miracle will come sweetie i will pray for it to happen faster for you  good luck

[bremer51]

A trust has been broken. Apologized sincerely once. Then keep being who you are. Send letters, send emails, trying calling. You are her mother. You love her and she loves you and needs you. But right now she's angry.  Do NOT give up.  You don't want her to be burdened with deep regret after you're gone.  I can tell you're a good mother.

[batmobile]

obviously you haven't given the whole story.  I'm sorry to hear your pain.  is this relationship a toxic one? Why would a daughter simply stop communication with her mother and not let you see the grand-kids?  You did something to upset her... Start off with remembering that relationships are more important than your pride; before you regret it.  You also need to respect her boundaries.  Prayers for amends and reconciliation in the family.