nursing homes.

[ktheodos]

I understand your concern. Some nursing homes in our area are allowing visitors with precautions. The reason they are being so restrictive is because of the residents vulnerability and because it spreads easily. Some residents might not always follow the precautions. Better safe than sorry in my opinion.

[bremer51]

My mother had a good experience at her nursing home.  Eventually her kidneys began to fail.  The doctors wanted to put her in the hospice cottage which was lovely.  My mother chose to go to hospice care at the nursing home "where her friends are" she said.  The nurses aides were her friends.  When I got the call that she had passed away at 2:00 a.m. I went straight to the nursing home.  All the young nurses hugged me and cried.  I felt like I needed to comfort them, instead of them comforting me. It was very moving.

[Nancy5]

My mother had a good experience at her nursing home.  Eventually her kidneys began to fail.  The doctors wanted to put her in the hospice cottage which was lovely.  My mother chose to go to hospice care at the nursing home "where her friends are" she said.  The nurses aides were her friends.  When I got the call that she had passed away at 2:00 a.m. I went straight to the nursing home.  All the young nurses hugged me and cried.  I felt like I needed to comfort them, instead of them comforting me. It was very moving.

I’m happy your mom had great care.  Like I said previously there are wonderful nurses and aides in nursing homes, but there are also uncaring ones.  So happy you found a good home for your mom and I’m very sorry for your loss.

[Tresbn00]

I think it really come down to performing due diligence/doing your homework. We researched five assisted living facilities when my parents were ready to make the move last year and were quite happy with the final decision. We also had a private physician visiting every two weeks and ultimately had to get a nurse/caretaker to provide round the clock care (one of the round the clock caregivers charged some meals to my parent's account and was dismissed). My father passed five weeks ago and we had been researching different facilities in Colorado so that my mother could be closer to us. We reviewed a ten year history on three facilities, checked the credentials of each caregiver and feel comfortable with the location that has been chosen. No incidences of CoVid or abuse.

[Nancy5]

I think it really come down to performing due diligence/doing your homework. We researched five assisted living facilities when my parents were ready to make the move last year and were quite happy with the final decision. We also had a private physician visiting every two weeks and ultimately had to get a nurse/caretaker to provide round the clock care (one of the round the clock caregivers charged some meals to my parent's account and was dismissed). My father passed five weeks ago and we had been researching different facilities in Colorado so that my mother could be closer to us. We reviewed a ten year history on three facilities, checked the credentials of each caregiver and feel comfortable with the location that has been chosen. No incidences of CoVid or abuse.

So happy you found a good home for your mom like I said there are excellent ones with great staff and some not so much, you just have to do your homework.    And I'm so very sorry to hear of the passing of your father.

[countrygirl12]

Wonder if the nursing homes have opened back up every where. I think in my area you can now visit. Not sure if there are restrictions as I have no family there. I think if I did I would get them out of there while things were open before things lock back down.

[Nancy5]

Wonder if the nursing homes have opened back up every where. I think in my area you can now visit. Not sure if there are restrictions as I have no family there. I think if I did I would get them out of there while things were open before things lock back down.

That’s a great idea, but sadly it can’t always work.  My mom had dementia, could not speak, walk, wore diapers, had to have food purée and fed.  I had her home with me for 3 years.  Had a caretaker with her 5 days so I could work, but after 5 pm and all weekends she was my responsibility 100%.  I tried my best, but my life was completely changed, once I was home Friday I never left the house until Monday morning.  Did that for 3 years straight.  As time went by she naturally got worse and harder to handle.  I had no choice, it broke my heart but I had to do it.

[ghunter]

God's in control, just trust him to take care of your father.

[countrygirl12]

Wonder if the nursing homes have opened back up every where. I think in my area you can now visit. Not sure if there are restrictions as I have no family there. I think if I did I would get them out of there while things were open before things lock back down.

That’s a great idea, but sadly it can’t always work.  My mom had dementia, could not speak, walk, wore diapers, had to have food purée and fed.  I had her home with me for 3 years.  Had a caretaker with her 5 days so I could work, but after 5 pm and all weekends she was my responsibility 100%.  I tried my best, but my life was completely changed, once I was home Friday I never left the house until Monday morning.  Did that for 3 years straight.  As time went by she naturally got worse and harder to handle.  I had no choice, it broke my heart but I had to do it.

I understand that. Just saying if it was possible after what has happened I would sure try.
We have enough abuse the way it is. Just think how it is when no family is allowed in the facility.

When my pappaw was in the nursing home there was an old man with Alzheimer and he would sit all day and spin the wheels on a little truck he held in his hand. Sometimes he would drop the truck and he was just staring in to space. If I noticed I would pick the truck up and put in his hand and he would start spinning the wheels again.

[Nancy5]

Wonder if the nursing homes have opened back up every where. I think in my area you can now visit. Not sure if there are restrictions as I have no family there. I think if I did I would get them out of there while things were open before things lock back down.

When my mom was in we made sure one of us were there 7 days a week and at different times so staff never knew when we would show up.  There were great, caring staff, and then staff that could have cared less.  There was a woman on my moms  floor who spent all day looking at herself in a long mirror and talking to her ‘twin’, another lady always carried her doll and I picked it off the floor many times when she dropped it.  Sad


That’s a great idea, but sadly it can’t always work.  My mom had dementia, could not speak, walk, wore diapers, had to have food purée and fed.  I had her home with me for 3 years.  Had a caretaker with her 5 days so I could work, but after 5 pm and all weekends she was my responsibility 100%.  I tried my best, but my life was completely changed, once I was home Friday I never left the house until Monday morning.  Did that for 3 years straight.  As time went by she naturally got worse and harder to handle.  I had no choice, it broke my heart but I had to do it.

I understand that. Just saying if it was possible after what has happened I would sure try.
We have enough abuse the way it is. Just think how it is when no family is allowed in the facility.

When my pappaw was in the nursing home there was an old man with Alzheimer and he would sit all day and spin the wheels on a little truck he held in his hand. Sometimes he would drop the truck and he was just staring in to space. If I noticed I would pick the truck up and put in his hand and he would start spinning the wheels again.

[ats27]

Our family is taking care of grandma who is in her 80's. My dad built a home about 10 years ago on the adjacent property so he looks in on her ever evening and we play games and do puzzles. I'm thankful we can do that because of all the horror stories regarding nursing homes and especially right now!

[dwiley11]

they are the most likely to get it

[tantricia44]

I think that it's for prevention for the elderly who are highly in a higher risk rate because of their age. Not because they want to stop families from visiting. I think though facilities should create free comunication choices to get families to see their elderly relatives from a far.

[mrsmere]

It's really sad when they can't have visitors because I'm sure this makes them feel very lonely.  My mom was in a nursing home for rehab many years ago and I almost lived at that place.  I would show up night and day to make sure she was being treated right but you can't do that now.  Some of those caregivers are in the wrong line of work but some are great and love what they do.

[makeblessed]

My husband works at a nursing home in our area; they just opened back up to limited visitors but only on the outside on the facility in the patio area and everyone still has to wear a mask and the number of visitors per resident is still limited.That's fine for now, but  not sure how they are going to handle when winter returns given that this virus is still expected to be floating around.