OMG! Right Now I Don`t Know Why I Am Married

[lucky382001]

My Biggest problem about leaving is he is going thru depression and is disabled ,can`t work and seeking medical treatment . He asked me before starting treatment if i would not leave him if he gets disabled. However i did tell him i will not stay if he doesnt stop being so mean and vindictive.He is the only one in the house who dont work he sits on couch all day thinking of things to pick a fight about with me or one of our kids,they are all over 20 .It`s like he is jealous or something!

Depression is a hard thing to deal with. Is he getting any counseling for that? It actually is a common thing for the caregivers to receive the brunt of bad behavior from the ones that rely on them the most. It makes it real hard. Talk to the doctor they may have some ideas and if he is on medication maybe it needs to be adjusted or added. Do they have vocational rehabilitation for disabled persons there? That could help take the edge off of his depression as often disabled people don't feel like they are valuable any longer. Comes out in a whole lot of different ways with people.
 I'd try talking to him about it and tell him that being mean to you doesn't exactly make you want to stick with him. Then the next time it happens tell him to adjust his attitude. (Or maybe I'm just mean  )  Good luck

[LenoraMinogue]

I'm so sorry you're unhappy and frustrated with your husband. All I can say to comfort you is that life is an ongoing journey, and people, situations, change. Yours can and will too.

[hensleyll]

Things have gotten better because i did go away for couple of hours!

[lannl]

That,s too bad. I had a husband like that once. I now have a boyfriend that I don't think I will be staying with. Have you heard of Blogtalk radio. they have sample psychic readings. You could get some advice there.

[Graeth]

Divorce.
If not, then a weapon is required.

You should never spend your life with anyone who does anything that remotely upsets you.
I have depression; its no excuse for being an *bleep* or in some peoples excuses, abusive.

[margaret0524]

You guys make my living alone sound like Heaven!

[mlhnceh]

It sounds like he is using his disability to make you feel guilty for leaving.  Talk to him, try counseling, and if he won't change, leave.  You have to take care of yourself before you can take care of anyone else.

[mrstina08]

My advice to you. Is that you cant change your husband. If you have let him know how you feel about things. He is still trippin.  Pray and ask God to give you strenght and change the things that are ruining your marriage. Get Godly counseling if you still want your marriage. If you dont do the next best things. God is only gonna change the things you are will to try and go through.

[alwaysinstyle]

you are really a hero!!! you helping him to survive,you always on his side...
i mean...what else does he want from you?


you know,try to talk to him.
eventually,you are a human too.you get tired,frustrated,useful...
if he can help you somehow he can be nice,polite,understanding...that's the key!!!


you are brave!!!!i admire you!!!wish you all the bet especially when you really feel down...

[tech2d]

You guys make my living alone sound like Heaven!

Heck...I live alone and I enjoy it. I do however wish to find that special someone in my life...I'm just not ready to have someone live with me. I just got over living with a "witch" for 2 years.

[hensleyll]

Thanks For All The Advice And Support,  We Went To Dr Today And For Once It Felt Like We Were In The Same Relationship! Hopefully He Really Is Going To Try To Be A Better instead Of Bitter Person!

[raven1114]

was he always this way or is this a recent thing? if he was always like this then why did you marry an *bleep* in the first place? if it's recent then have you suggested counseling for the two of you?

[inertia4]

Here's a question, why did you get married? I ask that because if you had any feelings like this before you married him, then you should have never done it. But, I totally understand what it's like to be in a bad marriage. I was in one for 17 years, and she was Satan's daughter. So, I got screwed. But, now that I am not with her anymore, I am fine. I found the true love of my life.

[squirrelgirl44]

I felt the same way about my ex. Leaving him and divorcing him even though we had a small child together was the best decision I ever made.

[ashsmith91]

My mother was married to my stepdad for 13 years, [my parents divorced when i was like 3] and like 6 years ago, my stepdad got diagnosed with Mineres Disease [vertigo in the ear. times like 100] and he takes SO MUCH MEDICATION. he basically couldnt work, cant drive, spends all his time on his computer, and ignored my mom, so she finally left him. i think it may have alot to do with the diseases, they change people. especially withmedications and stuff.
I wish you luck. i hope things get better for you! =