Is Spanking Your Child considered child abuse

[Longoria11]

im my opinion no kids need some disipline and if thats the only way they r gonna learn and understand so be it.. obviously if u leave them bruises n all then THATS wrong but a spank here and here isnt wrong...

[erincrowder35]

 :thumbsup:I feel that as a mother of a 3year old spankings are necessary to get my point across, she is constantly pushing my buttons and testing my limits and time outs do not always work! So a good swat across the hiney seems to work, and I dont feel that its child abuse! Now for the people who actually hit and punch that is most definately child abuse and that is horrible!  Children need disipline and a spanking doesnt harm the child it teaches them!

[cubarican210]

An example I'm about to give you just made me so upset. I was at Acme supermarket and this one man hit his son so hard in the chest that the kid couldn't even breathe. He hit him so hard the kid was actually stunned and it took him about 30 seconds before his cry came out. I mean that's how hard the guy hit him. I was pissed and my husband was too. For real, he hit this kid like if he was a man. The kid was about 5 or 6 yrs. old. The mom just stood there and didn't do a thing. I bet he beats her *bleep* up every now and then too. How could she stand there and not do anything? The child wasn't even doing anything wrong. All he asked was could he have some chips ahoy to take to summer camp and his father went ballistic on him. That's crazy.   

[kapeh12]

Growing up spankings were almost a ritual experience when they happened.  I don't think my brother, sisters or myself ever got one once we were out of elementary school.  Usually when we were spanked, it was because we really crossed the line - it was considered the "ultimate" punishment when you did something really bad.

Usually, we'd get sent to our room to "think about what we did wrong" while we waited for our dad to get home from work.  Then when he got home, you'd hear him walk up the stairs and call you into the parent's bedroom, where he acted almost more like a judge, and we confessed our error, then he administered the spanking.

We always felt worse about disappointing our parents, and really knew by the time the spanking occurred that we were in error.  Yeah, the spanking hurt, but the loss of respect and trust from our parents due to our stupid behavior hurt worse.

I think as long as the spanking (1) doesn't bruise - not too hard, and (2) not done when the parent is angry - it can be an effective deterrent for bad behavior.  I've read where spanking in public is not a good idea as the embarrassment to the child trumps the fact they are being spanked for doing something wrong.  I also think spankings are only effective between a certain age.

[nsap]

yea it is, you can punish your child without beating them up. there are many methods. for some people they make it look easy. also I can say one thing beating up on your kid to often won't make them respect you but scared of you. for some fear can turn into pure hate. but i swear some parents especially mothers hate they own kids. constantly blaming them for all their life problems. that's really fu'ed up.

[monkeygirl362]

It is not...I was spanked as a child and I grew up with nothing but awesome manners and respect for other people

[colton1266]

No! That's what's wrong with kids these days.

[AleehaA06]

No, beating them to death is child abuse to me.

[shernajwine]

I hate spanking my kids, I probably don't spank them enough! But no it's not abuse.

[cakestripe]

My parents used to spank us, but I don't remember if it ever actually HURT. I think the part that was so bad was the act of our mom or dad being so angry with us that they had to it us.
Actually, saying it like that, it sounds like a REALLY bad idea! I mean, yeah, it didn't hurt; but it still made us think that there are times when it's ok to get so mad we can hit the person we're mad at!
So, while it isn't abuse, I guess it still isn't good to do to kids.

[ckmiser]

                    I was told that you are not spose spank a child under the age of 5yrs. I was also told that if you can find alternative ways to punishment then that would be best. But I guess as long as you do not use excessive force then it shouldn't hurt anything. i have 4 children and I have found a reward system that works for them. I also use the grounding and taking away items as punishment.

[Tresbn00]

I think that spanking is somewhat archaic.  I have a 11 and 13 year old and haven't had to administer any kind of physical punishment.  Listening to a child, discussing problem behavior and its ramifications, letting them know the dissappointment you feel when they make poor choices, and showing them as much love as possible has been effective in my life.

[lywb2168]

I believe that spanking is necessary in some cases.  I have a friend that her son could not be tought time outs.  He ws so hipper that nothing worked.  Spanking seems to be the only thing that let him understand that something he did was wrong.  You would put nim on time out he would laught in your face and run out of the house and I am talking about a 1 year old.  so my friend started spanking he would cry but start behaving, when the spanking with the hand did not work (he was still wearing diapers) because he would not feel it, she tooka wooden spoon from the kitchen and let him feel that, he was straighten out right away.  Even at age 4, they would go out to the mall or something she good showed him that the wooden spoon was on her purse and believe me, he was an angel for the trip.  But she never bruised him and never beat him up with it, just 1 spank for he to know that was wrong.  Now he is 9 years old and much more well behave, the spoon is not need it and the time outs or even take away the games for a day wokr like a charm.

My daughters got spank when little, now they are teeangers and I take away their cell phones or not going to a party or out with there friends and that hurts more than anything.  I talked to a social worker in my state and she told me that spanking is not child abuse, as long as there are no bruises or you do not get overboard and mad, then it will be abuse.

Another friend of mine slap her son after he did something and he called the police on her, when the police officer showed up he ask why had she slapped him, when he was told the whole story (I believe the kid had stolen some money from her purse or something), the officer told the kid that he was lucky he could not touch him or him (the officer) would had slap him too for being so bad.    The kid never attempted to call the police again and never did anything as bad as that again.

[smithjcsdfw]

Not in my house.  Spanking a child is part of the role and responsibility of being a parent.  Beating a child is  not being a good parent at all.  I see a lot of children these days who have absolutly no idea of discipline until they get to school and they are the most obnoxious unruly children you could ever wish on society.  So if a parent is too lazy to discipline thier child they really should not be a parent.

[jenn0527]

We did spank our kids when they were younger but now I cannot even remember the last time a spanking was given. We are always given compliments on all 4 of our children at how well they are behaved, they are very polite and respectful of adults which is something we do not see enough of these days with the youth of today.

Now I do have close friends and family that refuse to spank or discipline their children at all and everytime I talk to them on the phone it sounds like their kids are having a screaming and temper tantrum contest to see who can yell the loudest. Every child is different but I grew up knowing if I broke the rules I would have a punishment in the end.

 Even as adults if we break the traffic laws-we are punished. If we don't show up for work-we are punished(with no paycheck). Whenever you do not have consequences for a person's actions regardless of age or punishment we as a society are encouraging anarchy.

We must all have Rules and Punishments or we will pay a great price in the end.