Should I get a divorce????

[acurtsinger2]

you have to remember that it has been scietifically proven that males don't mature as fast as females...so if you are both 25 you are about 5 yhears mentally older than he is...men reach maturity atabout 30,,,,so if he's younger than that,  be patient

[frampton43]

My parents got divorced not too long ago and as the child it's not a very comfortable position to be in. Constant fights, possible law suits, many things that can cause problems with the children. Think about them and yourself and if worst comes to worst, I guess it's time to end it. But divorce should be your last resort.

[ninajay]

If you're not happy and you don't think things will change, then get a divorce

[gaylasue]

You need to find the root of the reason of his lies.  Is it insecurity?  Is it for boasting or self-buildup?  If you can't trust anything a person says as being true or have to doubt everything said as being legitimate, it would be very hard for me to live with a person like that.  Staying together for the "children's" sake can cause more harm to the children than it helps.  Kids aren't dumb.  They pick up on more than most adults like to admit.  I wish you luck on your dilemma.

[r0bb]

Maybe don't get a divorce, just seperate for a lil while, or shop around for a new man, then get a divorce.

[mrcupidstuntz]

Stay together. This will not only affect you but also ur daughter.. Imagine how she will feel about growing up without a father. stay together till shes like 18 then break it off.

[tashamjoy]

This is not about you this is about your child do u not see that ?!?!? A child going back and forth and splitting holidays and all that its hard why put your daughter threw that!!! You dont have to be happy to be together stay in seperate rooms maybe dont be in love but marraige is a commitement you dont have to get along all the time if he is with someone else i am sorry thats not right but you can try to provide your daughter with stability and that her parents will always be there for her you dont have to be in love to raise a family thats reality for me thats how i feel

[tashamjoy]

And to people who say that its not healthy for children to see there parents fighting and its not good so u should divorce i feel thats bull sorry but it is fighting is natural it is !!! People fight thats life but at the end of the day you are family and u stick together children need the stability of two parents and the love they dont need to go back and forth and deal with that the stress that does to a child in choosing sides and splitting time is soooo hard !!!!!

[alwaysinstyle]

that's your responsibility to keep everything in a good way.
there is always 2 sides of the story.Talking talking talking and again talking is the most important thing to resolve most of the problems we have.
Beasides maybe is rutine already.But please don't give up!it doesn't mean you cannot make it work.
try to find time just for both of you.Organize time for him only.Make him go somwhere with his friends and tell him how you appreciate everything he does.
The only one thing for both of you is maybe you need some time apart.Maybe you need time to go for vacation together.Or even just for a weekend.
try to be patience.Believe me i know how hard it is.i lost my marriage.I really think about myself reading this.
You really can make it work
GOOD LUCK TO YOU BOTH!

[nanekai]

Well that is your decision however, if you know things are bad why stay.  I know its harder when there are children involved.  You have to be happy too and it sounds like you are not!  I was lucky I didn't have children the divorce was not that hard!  (well had it rough times still does, divorced since March)

[dexterjrh]

My husband lies and lies, and I might add lies. The only time he tries to make me happy is when he knows I am fed-up! We have been together 7years, married for 2years, and have a 2year old daughter! How many times do you keep trying to make some work that is not working?

Should i ask,what does he lie about

7 years a long time

[mrisha]

Dont get a divorce think of your little girl she wants to live with both parents she does not want to go back and forth all the time you can live together and maybe you will not be happy but it will be good for your daughter and marragie is not always good but u do not just go and get a divorce you work through it maybe you are not in love but at least you are not alone

This is the worse advice you can ever give a person.  You don't stay in the marriage because you have a child.  Guess what, if you are miserable, the atmosphere in that house is going to make the child miserable.  No ones sanity is worth staying in a miserable marriage that makes you unhappy.  Kids are smart and they can feel and see how unhappy the parents are and that can be detrimental to how she grows up and how she think about marriage.

[chel3179]

I guess deep down you're the only one that can make the decision. It will be easy for all of us to say what WE would do. I left my son's father when my son was 5 months old. It was hard and 4 years later it is still hard BUT it was the best decision for me and my son. You have to sit back and ask yourself if it it's worth fixing for your whole family.

[davidf938]

Did they play the warning song at your wedding? you know the one. DUM   dum   dumdum.

[Thumper18]

If your not happy in the situation then fix it. Whether that means counciling , separtating or getting a divorce. Cause when it really comes down to it, your child comes first. Set a example for her. Dont just except being lied to your better then that , and your daughter is too. Do whats best for her!