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dmahoney

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confused and dissappointed
« on: February 28, 2012, 10:31:12 am »
Have you ever gotten to a point where you are confused and dissapointed about everything in your life. I mean your marriage, friends, home, etc. If you have what did you do about it? Did you make it better or fix it? How long does this go on or is it a faze? Some insite from others would be appreciated! :crybaby2:


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Re: confused and dissappointed
« Reply #1 on: February 28, 2012, 10:44:07 am »
All you can do is push through it, I think everyone goes through this phase and it will pass (I hope)

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Re: confused and dissappointed
« Reply #2 on: March 02, 2012, 11:18:37 am »
Get out somewhere and excersise! While you are getting your blood flowing and getting/staying in shape it helps relieve a lot of stress. I take Tai Chi and Martial Arts which clears the mind and gets me out. It also exposes me to a variety of people that can bring a different perspective on things and also opportunities that can lead to solutions or something new. I find that when I get confused and dissappointed it is usually when I have way too much on my plate and it's time to step back and re-evaluate my priorities. Take some time out for only you, whether it's daily, weekly or monthly, to do something that makes you feel good. It can be a simple routine like a weekly manicure/pedicure or a daily cup of coffee outside to watch the sun rise. Pick something that will give you that attitude change you need to move forward. Good Luck! 

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Re: confused and dissappointed
« Reply #3 on: March 02, 2012, 04:24:14 pm »
Just put yourself in Gods hands, and pray you will find your answer with him and the solution to all your problems. You will find not only solution but peace as well. He always listen and doesn't leave a prayer unanswered. Good luck and God bless you, let him be the guide for you.

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Re: confused and dissappointed
« Reply #4 on: March 02, 2012, 04:38:48 pm »
Absolutely.  I have been at the lowest low.  I don't know how severe it is for you, but someone told me many years ago and I've never forgotten it:  "We won't know the difference a million years from now," and I will go outside and look at the universe and seem so minute.  Hang in there, kiddo!

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Re: confused and dissappointed
« Reply #5 on: March 02, 2012, 05:13:24 pm »
Just put yourself in Gods hands ...

Presuming such a 'being' exists, of course. Otherwise, there wouldn't be any such "hands".


... and pray you will find your answer with him and the solution to all your problems.


More presumptions; one of which would be the assumption that 'prayer' is effective, (and there's no verifiably-attributible evidence to support such an assumption/presumption).  The other derives from the first in that there's no evidence to support the claim that 'prayer' provides "the solution to all your problems."  That would constitute 'wishful-thinking', (and unfulfilled wishing at that).


You will find not only solution but peace as well.


How does wishful-thinking and blind faith provide "peace"?

He always listen and doesn't leave a prayer unanswered.

Unless no one is there to "listen" or, answer.  If that is the case, time would be better spent seeking viable solutions.
One can lead a horse to water however, if one holds the horse's head under, that horse will drown.

             

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Re: confused and dissappointed
« Reply #6 on: March 02, 2012, 05:19:32 pm »
It happens sometimes more than once in life.  You can push throught, but for me personally - it helps to try and fix things.  Like if its with your family - they don't appreciate you or whatever:  speak up, let your feelings be known and put your focus on those relationships.  If its your life in general, make a list of what you normally do and change it.  Change uo your schedule and always put a little "me" time in there.  And find a hobby - coloring, reading, writing, video games, mind numbing TV, whatever.

I know how you feel and trust me - it gets better. :heart:

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Re: confused and dissappointed
« Reply #7 on: March 02, 2012, 07:02:55 pm »
Things can and will get better.  Keep your head up.  Try getting out couple of  times a week even if it was for few minutes.  walk, talk to others, even strangers.  Try and join some kind of club, help others by donating some of your time.  Do some praying but never ever give up on life. 

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« Reply #8 on: March 02, 2012, 07:39:53 pm »
I have been there too, Just remember God only give you what you can handle, and if you have kids look in there faces and tell them you love them and give them a hug, it helps a little bit, and talk to someone, also try taking a walk or even a shower a long one, you can and will get bye, Just take one breath at a time, and one day at a time, its importent to remember there is someone out there who Loves you,, :angel11:
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Re: confused and dissappointed
« Reply #9 on: March 03, 2012, 09:47:01 am »
I really appreciate all your replys. They were all good ideas (except Falcon as usual) and I will try them. I am truely thankful! :heart:

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Re: confused and dissappointed
« Reply #10 on: March 03, 2012, 11:48:59 am »
I've been there many times and it helps me to talk to friends who are not involved with the situation or  just take time for myself to figure things out

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Re: confused and dissappointed
« Reply #11 on: March 03, 2012, 12:08:56 pm »
i feel that way alot. lately its been alot of what ifs. but havent done nothing about it. just keep going in the same direction. trying to find something that makes me happy.

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Re: confused and dissappointed
« Reply #12 on: March 03, 2012, 01:05:59 pm »
I really appreciate all your replys. They were all good ideas (except Falcon as usual)

A suggestion to seek viable solutions is not a good idea? That's quite the irrational contortion, (as usual).
One can lead a horse to water however, if one holds the horse's head under, that horse will drown.

             

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Re: confused and dissappointed
« Reply #13 on: March 03, 2012, 01:13:50 pm »

You will find not only solution but peace as well.


How does wishful-thinking and blind faith provide "peace"?

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When one believes in a higher being that is listening, one would be at peace when sharing what is in the heart. Much like a patient talking to a psychologist, it feeeelllllls good to unburden oneself. Blind faith is powerful as well as wishful-thinking because it is your attitude that changes and when your attidude changes you can move forward or deal with things. I, too, am not one the praying list but I find some of your "religion bashing" just that, bashing, not an intelligent debate. I must admit, though, sometimes you come up with good points. In my humble opinion, I think the tone of your postings comes across as very hostile and offensive to many readers rather than a discussion/debate. Chill out a bit.

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Re: confused and dissappointed
« Reply #14 on: March 03, 2012, 01:32:12 pm »
How does wishful-thinking and blind faith provide "peace"?

When one believes in a higher being that is listening, one would be at peace when sharing what is in the heart. Much like a patient talking to a psychologist, it feeeelllllls good to unburden oneself. Blind faith is powerful as well as wishful-thinking because it is your attitude that changes and when your attidude changes you can move forward or deal with things.

The psychological comfort aspect is understood, (at least intellectually).  What I meant was, how wishful-thinking provide a solution to the problem wished for?
 

I, too, am not one the praying list but I find some of your "religion bashing" just that, bashing, not an intelligent debate.


Since I haven't specifically 'bashed' religion, (unless questioning the basis for such 'beliefs' is somehow considered to be "bashing"), and have initiated debate upon those premises, I find that your characterization doesn't reflect the actual content of posts made.  Do you have a specific example of "religion bashing" which is not a perceptual interpretation?


I must admit, though, sometimes you come up with good points. In my humble opinion, I think the tone of your postings comes across as very hostile and offensive to many readers rather than a discussion/debate. Chill out a bit.

"Tone" is an elusive aspect of the written word.  Depending upon any given context, it is quite possible that even "hi there!" can come across as "hostile and offensive" through biased eyes.  Some people are apt to perceive any challenge to their unsupported opinions as being "hostile and offensive", (even when there was no such intent).  Others will read the _same exact challenge_ and perceive that without the added emotional undertones.  Eye of the beholder and all that, nyet?
One can lead a horse to water however, if one holds the horse's head under, that horse will drown.

             

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