Do you think this is cheating?

[msmoneybags48]

Maybe X considers it as cheating since you slept with Y.  The first mistake you made was telling him that you slept with Y.  Men are not as forgiving about confessions, especially when it hits this magnitude.  There are some things that are better left unsaid.  You told him and, regardless of the fact that he promised he would not bring it up, he is constantly bringing it up.  I am not saying that you were wrong; you weren't with him, and you left X for a reason.  Maybe you should have started a relationship with someone else.  You at least realized, in sleeping with Y, that he wasn't your type.  X feels wounded because he took you back even after you decided that confession is good for the soul.  Why don't you ask him how long he plans to persecute you for this.

[Lindaroof]

If you were broken up and not seeing them anymore then NO, it was not cheating. Now let me say this, you need to get away from that relationship now, they are never going to let you forget about the other relationship, so move on and save yourself alot of heartache now!

[sherryinutah]

I don't buy into the concept of cheating because I don't believe two people OWN each other, anyway.  X is wanting you to feel guilt about spending time with Y and he's using it as leverage.  It's important to evaluate your commitment with these men.  It might be best if you NOT discuss other relationships with a man you're currently involved with, in the future.  Some people call it...

refusing to kiss and tell. 

[braggin]

I agree with BaudLight. You were NOT cheating when you were with Y, but the fact that X keeps bringing this up makes it sound like you were right to ditch X to begin with. Go for a Z!

[melissaotto1982]

Not cheating but I think you need to move on if he cant get passed what happened in the past like he said because its just going to turn to something he holds over your head forever.

[vickysue]

If he is going to hold it over your head and keep at you, I would tell him to take a flying leap. Otherwise you are going to hear about is the rest of the time you were with him. And i bet he was not too clean while you were broke up.

[mrisha]

Obviously it bothers him as to what you did with Y.  It looks like he is punishing you for being with Y.  I don't think you cheated on X because you broke up with him, but it was stupid on your part for thinking that the grass was greener on the other side.  You should have expected that the relationship you had with Y would bother him.  You say X was happy to take you back-it doesn't look like  it.

[darkxtsuna]

I say dump X for a better person,Constant nagging on how you chose Y over him for a period and then realizing your faults and going back to X. Does not mean you need to take his crap. To me his basically saying you cant get a better guy then him which is BS all women deserves a guy that respects her and trust's her . Yeah sure he may or may not be the one for you but a dude who gets jealous for that long period of time and keeps telling you that its your fault and making you apologies over and over again is just a little kid trapped in older persons body.

And for the cheating part, you did not cheated at all you ended your relations with X hence forth being single again and getting into a new relationship with Y. So you don't need to say sorry or all those things just to make him feel like his the only guy in the world for you or superior ETC. You do not need to think you cheated on him or feel any guilt because YOU DID NOT CHEATED.

[dwggs]

In my opinion .. what you did was not cheating .. but one thing you must remember is that now that you are back with X your relationship may never be the same ... It sounds to me like the trust is gone .. it may be time to move forward and make a clean break from both of them

[Timberlan127]

According to the facts you give I would say no you were not cheating. But I would also wonder if you have a future with X since he doesn't seem to trust you any more since he continually reminds you of the past.

[natashaspy]

not if you were broken up with X at the time.  if X is continually making you apologize and throwing it up to you, then maybe you should review the reason you left X to start with?

[countrygirl12]

I was with X for a year and a half, but I broke up with him for Y. I had relations with Y, realized he was not my type, and broke up with Y. Then I went back to X, told him I had relations with Y and X took me back happily, saying that he would never bring up what I did with Y. It has been a month since he took me back, and he brings up what I did with Y every. single. day. He's made me apologize hundreds of times and even made me admit that what I did was cheating. I don't think it was cheating at all because I was not with X at the time. What do you think?

It wasn't cheating.  You broke up with him and went with another man.  He didn't have to take you back.  If it were me I would leave.  I wouldn't put up with being treated badly for something that happened while I was broke up with him.

[bremer51]

Once the relationship with X was over, you were a free woman.  So you cannot be accused of cheating.  However, X is  unable to accept that you had a relationship with Y, even though its over.  My advice is:  put an end to your relationship with X.  You had reason to leave him once before and you can't apologize for the rest of your life.  Then I would suggest that you remain single and just be by yourself for awhile.  Don't move on to Z until you have time to regroup.

[moonangel]

 awww give me a break no you didn't cheat ,but yeah you kinda did .you broke up with x to go with y then ran back to x  ....you cant run your life like that.  either you love x or you don't  make up your friggin mind.  so ummm in 2 months you see a z you break up with x to have relations with z then go back to x  maybe im just in a bad mood but I think you may need to grow up.  you and x probably need counsceling but did you really think x would not be hurt and just take you back ummm not going to happen you should have thought a lot harder about leaving x than you did. x must really love you to take you back.   nope im not in a bad mood I just really hate people who toy with other peoples hearts which is exactly what you did shame on you   oh and just to let the people who are gonna *bleep* at me for my opinion this comes from my heart been there done that so just don't yak back at me.

[hollister237]

awww give me a break no you didn't cheat ,but yeah you kinda did .you broke up with x to go with y then ran back to x  ....you cant run your life like that.  either you love x or you don't  make up your friggin mind.  so ummm in 2 months you see a z you break up with x to have relations with z then go back to x  maybe im just in a bad mood but I think you may need to grow up.  you and x probably need counsceling but did you really think x would not be hurt and just take you back ummm not going to happen you should have thought a lot harder about leaving x than you did. x must really love you to take you back.   nope im not in a bad mood I just really hate people who toy with other peoples hearts which is exactly what you did shame on you   oh and just to let the people who are gonna *bleep* at me for my opinion this comes from my heart been there done that so just don't yak back at me.

I broke up with x and I found a Z and no I do not plan on going back to X